These last few years I have learned many things, especially on an emotional level, that have allowed me to understand the way others act, not only others, but also myself.
I feel that the power to scrutinize oneself is something that very few have that wonderful power. I remember once, a friend told me that she does not like to be doing nothing, she likes to be always working, either at home or at her job because the fact of being idle makes her depressed.
In a way I understand her, after finishing my first career I spent a lot of time doing nothing, not because I wanted to but because it has always been difficult to get a job for a person without work experience, and that seemed awful, unproductive and depressing but now that everything has changed I think there must be a balance: not everything is work but you can not fall into the extreme of spending several days without producing or stop learning something. Vacations are really necessary and even if it's just a few minutes a day with ourselves too; moments where we can organize our thoughts or simply see the world from another perspective are necessary as it is when we are reading a book or watching a movie. "Being always busy is the same as being productive" , this is a mistake which I know is not true , it has allowed me to feel good about myself so this leads to a better performance and treatment towards others. As an introvert I need this space for myself, but I believe that extroverted people also need it to know what they really want to achieve or where to be.
Some of my work tools
Another big mistake I got rid of is wanting to please everyone. This is impossible, there are many self-conscious people who do not even like themselves, so why wait for someone's approval? I will always be myself, so I should only seek to improve the version of myself.
This is me at work thinking I need a well-deserved vacation at the beach 🤣.
Images are my own property. Taken from my Samsung phone.
Translated from Spanish to English by DeppL (free version)