Weekend Engagement : Week 164 || Cheat & Confrontation

The topic for this week is quite interesting, and I chose one that related to me and I want to write about it. Thank you @galenkp for another brainstorming topic. A cheater is difficult to confront with. I'm referring to my personal experience of being cheated by my own ex.

It is an embarrassing act to be caught cheating. Because of how many people they have hurt, cheaters get mad when they get caught. Just like how my ex was acting out when I caught him cheating on me a few times.

If you confront a cheater, they won't tell you the truth, so don't rush it. At the very beginning of our relationship, I discovered that he had cheated on me with another woman but he only told me lies about her. He had been cheating on both of us.

I am aware that his narcissistic behaviour is to blame for everything. He had treated the woman who came before me as his supply and I took her place. She had previously shared with me how she had been mistreated, and she was glad to be free of him.

Years later, I am aware of the other woman who seems to be mailing him. She was only his "friend with benefits," as he put it, when I confronted him, he said that it was just texting and he said he's not cheating. But he managed to delete some of her text before it got to my knowledge. I was devastated and knew all along that he made it a practise to stay in touch with her.

We must be aware that dealing with a cheater is difficult since they will continue to cheat as long as they can. Narcissists have a habit of cheating. They are wise, therefore, they take precautions to prevent their lies from being found out. However, they will be aggressive and in denial when we attempt to confront them about their lies.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. He’s going to play you again. I let him move on and find someone else to play with which he did now and she was the one he lied to me about. I know he needs his supply as soon as possible. A narcissist can't be left alone, he needs his supply or else he can't achieve his goal.

He can talk about his goal to his supply and let them believe that he is worth the keep. All I can say is good luck to her and I will be thankful to be away from such a man. Whatever I said in that confrontation with him in the past was useless because he would accuse me of something else, and he was the victim. I was angry, but I deserve to feel how I felt at that time.

All I can say is, my confrontation with my cheater doesn't go well and I don't really regret it. Somehow, some might feel differently. I am taken aback by our willingness to feel regret and guilt for something or someone who has treated us with no mercy. They're forgetting what transpired or why a confrontation even took place. Those who discover they have been betrayed rarely manage it well, in my experience.

Thus, I dedicate this to my cheating ex. I never had to apologise for how I responded. You did wrong; I was the one who was betrayed. Despite your initial feelings, a person who has been cheated on has no need to apologise to the cheater.