Happy weekend everyone 😁... We made it to another weekend and the next weekend is another month.
I came across the weekend activity article by @galenkp and i decided to participate and puck the question number 2 which is:
Which do you feel is more important? Rank all of the following from most to least important and explain why: Manners, communication skills, relationship-building, honesty, generosity, and humility.
Personally i think everything is important and they are important core values which an individual must have but u i have to answer the question and in my own way or idea If I have to rank these qualities from the most important to the least important, i would arrange them like this and i know some might not agree but this is my personal view on the question
1. Honesty
2. Communication skills
3. Relationship-building
4. Humility
5. Manners
6. Generosity
Now, let me explain why I chose this order and also i felt they actually connect to each other and one can't exist without the other bit some can exist independently and the reason i chose this order and how these qualities are connected to each other.
1. First, honesty is the most important for me
I believe that honesty is the foundation of every good thing and a honest person is a good person... And i also believe the law of karma which says good will happen to those hwo do good and bad will happen to those that does bad to people.
I know people that are good communicator or have good manners, but they are not truthful and this makes people to stay away from them because ghey do not trust them. Trust is the key to every relationship, every friendship, and even in the business world, no one would want to give a business contract to someone they do not trust and ithout honesty, there can't be trust.
You can lose people’s respect very quickly when you're not honest qnd honesty shows that you are real and that you have integrity and that people can also rely on you. When you are honest, everything else you build whether friendships, work relationships or anything that requires honesty, it will have a strong foundation and this assures that it will be for a vry long time.
2. Second is communication skills.
Why i chose communication skills is because honesty is done by actions but you will need to also know how to express yourself well because you being honest alone won't be very helpful if you can't defend yourself.
Communication skills is nit just about talking but it also involves ilistening too. A good communicator is also a good listener. Communication skills help you express your honesty in a way that others understand and can comprehend whatever you want to let them know, you may have a good heart, but if you cannot communicate it well, people might get the wrong idea about you. Communication is like the bridge that connects your inner values to the outside world, it brings and let people know how honest you're.
3. Third is relationship building.
Personally, i chose relationship building to be the third because i see it as an addition because when your honest qnd outspoken, you will have people coming to be your friends because who don't like to have honest friends?...
Another reason why i cjose relationship building was because we cannot achieve great things alone, we need people that have same goals with us and to have such friend, we need to build strong relationships and this will open doors for new opportunities, meaningful deeper friendships, and even better teamwork at work.
Relationships are not built overnight and they require honesty, good communication, patience, and time and once you are honest and can communicate well, building relationships becomes the next important thing and it can come naturally and you get to pick the friends that suit you or you can approach people to become friends with them since you already now have the communication skills and honesty.
4. Fourth is humility.
Humility is very important and this is because it is humility that keeps us grounded. No matter how talented you are or how many relationships you have built, if you are proud or arrogant, people will be pushed away and they won't want to associate with you for that reason... If you're to proud and you only care about yourself alone and don't care what happens to others, no one will care about you and probably at your old age, you will be alone.
Posessing humility helps you admit your mistakes, learn from others, and stay open to growth and it also shows that you respect others and that you do not think you are better than them, humility makes you a lowly person, it makes you understand what others are going through even when you haven't experience whatever tehy are going through.
I chose humility to come after relationship building and honesty because humility can sustain relationships and you can't have humility or you can't be humble if you're not honest to yourself and that's why honesty stull maintain my number 1 spot.
5. Fifth is manners.
Manners might mean different things to everyone but in a simpler way, manners means you being polite and showing respect for others. Saying simple "please", "thank you", "sorry", and treating others kindly may seem small, but they make a big difference in the long run. Those little things you're doing, people would never forget it and they would respect you for it.
Having good manners create a positive atmosphere and help relationships grow stronger and i placed manners after humility because I feel that real politeness comes from a humble heart because I don't think someone would be polite if they are nit humble and that cane in to conclusion that "if you are humble, you will naturally have good manners"
manners without honesty or humility can feel fake, and can be quickly noticed from the body reaction, the tone of the vouce and that's why i chose manners to be my 5th option, though it is very important but I do not think it's more important than honesty, communication, relationship building, or humility.
6. Finally, generosity.
Generosity is another important core value and it is very important but I placed it last because I believe generosity without honesty and humility can sometimes be done for selfish reasons whereby the person is doing it for praise or attention, we can see similar things happening on TikToks nowadays where people help and make a video to get likes and views.
I believe true generosity should come from a heart that is honest, humble, and willing to give without expecting anything in return or something in return. You cannot really be generous to others if you have not first built honest and strong relationships with them, generosity is awesome and it's rare to see people that are actually generous and they are one of a kind.
I have explained why my ranking is like that and honesty came first because it is the foundation of all good character and without honesty it seems everything else is likely to fall apart and communication skills come next because they help you share your heart with others and a good communication skills exceed talking but also listening and relationship building follows because we all need people in our lives and that's the beauty of life having someone you can share everything with and someone you can grow old with. Humility comes after because it keeps us from becoming proud and knowing when to talk, how to talk and also not looking down on people. Manners help us treat people with respect daily and also know when to say please, sorry, and finally generosity is like a toppings on cakes and it's rare to find people that are generous amd if you're out there still doing good, you will receive good.
All these six values are important but some must come first to make the others truly meaningful. If we work on being honest, communicating well, building strong relationships, staying humble, showing good manners, and being generous, we will live lives that inspire others and honor God.
Thanks for reading ❤️😊
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