There is a saying that "Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are". This statement is usually true as you it helps if you should go along with what you see or run for the hills.
The first time I asked a guy out happened a few years back. A friend and I were invited to a wedding by our mutual friend. It was her cousin's wedding and well I love weddings so we all went. Long story short, my friend and I were sitting at a round table enjoying the whole thing when I saw a guy with his friends also sitting not too far from our table.
He was so cool and composed that I was staring at him. My friend noticed and called my attention before I will start drooling, so I tried to find a way to get his attention. I told my friend, I was going to dance and told her to watch out if he looks in my direction since he was just pressing his phone as if he was forced to come to the party.
After dancing for a while, I headed back to join my friend and she told me he did look but not for long. I thought of what else to do so I told my friend I was going to ask for his number. By then, some of his friends have left to dance leaving him and a guy on the seat. My friend looked at me like I was crazy and advised against it but I wasn't listening. I went over to say hello. He stood up to allow me to join the table. I noticed he was way taller than I am and his perfume is messing with my senses.
I managed to keep my cool and sat beside him. I went straight to the point so as not to waste my time. I told him that I'd been noticing him and liked what I see and would like to have his number. He was taken aback but he recovered and offered me a smile. Damn! Those smiles were so contagious that I found myself smiling back. He introduced himself to me as "Jubril" and after talking for a few minutes, we exchanged contacts. The other guy was shocked at the event unfolding but I pretended not to see him. After a while, I left for my seat.
My friend couldn't believe her eyes and she said I was indeed crazy but I smiled since I was able to accomplish what I went for. I called him the next day though because I was way too tired when I got back home that day. We talked for a few minutes and I noticed he is a shy type or rather a reserved type.
We also chatted for some time and planned to go out on a date but it didn't work out as he did send me a message a day before our "supposed date". He apologized for not coming out straight that he has a girlfriend and that he won't want to hurt her and also waste my time. I was amazed by his sincerity and loyalty and respected that. Though he wanted us to stay friends I wanted more, so I had to let go. It was better that we didn't get far so it was a bit easy.
I always laugh whenever I remember that day at the wedding. Yeah, maybe I'm crazy, or maybe not. But I didn't think there's a rule that states that going for what you want is gender-based. So...... Peace.
The image used is mine.