Motivation is what gives you momentum. Habits are what keep you going.
Thank you @galenkp, for this weekend's topics, and for today I have chosen:
Option one: You're strange
Name and explain some of your personality quirks, strange habits or oddities that other people may find strange, weird, funny or just plain unusual. Tell us about any moments in which they may have caused humour, embarrassment or just came in useful. It's about you, so simply write what you feel is right and you wish to share.
Hello my weekend friends,
How are you today?
I don't know how many recognize their bad habits in certain communities, but I decided a few hours ago to write an article about bad habits - mine, obviously.
I honestly don't know why this idea struck me, it's probably @galenkp's fault😊, I'm not perfection incarnate either (although I'd like to, I admit it would be boring).
But if you search the internet for "bad habits" you will find results such as: smoking (I don't smoke), foul language (I can count on one hand how many times I have sworn in 38 years) and others such as alcohol or drug use.
Mine are a little... smaller, but that doesn't make them any less bad. Because I'm convinced that recognizing them is the first step to healing, here's my list of bad or, well, less good habits:
- I give up myself, my dreams, for others. For example, I go to the college my parents chose for me, I go to the job my wife chose for me, I give up a promotion for a colleague.
- I don't say NO when I disagree. For fear of hurting others, for fear of losing a well-paid job.
- I focus on the bad things that have happened to me and the failures I have had.For example here on the HIVE platform when my posts are very poorly rated, commented on or viewed, I focus on them to figure out what I did wrong, instead of going ahead and outlining a new post and starting over.
- I spend a lot of time around people who influence me negatively.
- I don't take full responsibility for everything that happens to me. Others are always to blame. This bad habit I acquired because of the job I have, and I don't take pride in it.
- I always put off doing what I've always dreamed of doing.
And I have two more but these happen to me less often:
- Emotional eating,
-Nail biting,
How did I set out to get rid of these bad habits?
OK... I recognized them. Now what? The first step, I think, would be to resolve and do my best to stop doing these things. The first part's easier, the second... a little harder.
But I've learned something in the process: you don't have to do everything right the first time. Even small steps at first will get us there.
I'm just starting to discover other things about bad habits that I find interesting:
1. Becoming mega-aware of flaws and to change a behavior, I must first understand it.
2. I won't focus on what I'm not going to do and I won't focus too much on things like "I'm going to quit smoking", "I'm going to diet". Goals need to be clearer, more owned.
3. I will become my own critic.
4. I won't go overboard with positive thinking. I'm going to weigh up all aspects, both positive and negative to realise how I can stop these bad habits.
And now...
Now it's your turn!
I've told you what bad habits I have and how I plan to eliminate them.
What does your list of bad habits look like?
Have you ever thought of getting rid of them?
If so, have you managed to find other ways than mine?
Thank you for taking the time to read the contents of today's post, all images are created in PowerPoint, and text are my own.
Also thanks in advance for those who support the @triplug project, but I'm also happy to get advice on my blogs.