Happy weekend to you all here on the weekend experience community, hope you're engaging yourself with memorable activities tho.
Have you ever gained or lost something
Or someone because of a habit (good or bad) of yours? no fictional writing, this must be a true story. Remember to use your photo.
Habit good or bad has an impact on us, most times When a good habit brings us some unpleasant results we wish we had exhibited the bad one, there is a saying that " bad things happen to good people" How true is that?
A day after my birthday in 2022, my cousin linked me up with a male friend of hers and was preaching all sorts of sweet things to me about the guy, then she exchanged our numbers and he chatted me up, at first we were cool we talked often "they said love at the talking stage is always merry" then we created time to go out, went to see a movie " the woman king" we got to know each other more. All of a sudden this guy went mute, we weren't communicating like before, fine he made it clear to me that he doesn't like calls I respected that not call him often, then even chatting was kinda of a problem, he replied my messages anytime he liked, seeing these red flags I just decided within myself I'd let him be, besides I can't force a man to stay.
Some months later he chatted me up again and apologized about his attitude of recent, we were now cool for a few weeks then he popped the question, and asked me to be his girlfriend, I don't judge people on their first mistakes, since I was also single I decided to give it a try and see where it leads me, we talked often on like before but then this long-distance thing after our first date we haven't seen, we base in the same city but we don't see each other over a year when I called him to complain about us not seeing, he'd say because he doesn't have enough money to take me to these fancy places that he has a project his throwing all his money on.
Over a year and some months, I haven't seen this guy except on a video call, also when he has personal issues he won't share them with me, he will go mute for weeks when I confront him, and he will say when he is going through stuff he doesn't talk to people and I asked people including me he said yes, I was pissed and shock at the same time, I conversed with him I was longer interested in the relationship, it's not like we live in different states inside the same city we don't see each other. I don't write people off easily, I know I have my bad habits as well so I tried my best to make the relationship work, but I noticed he wasn't putting in the same amount of effort as I did. This time I ended everything despite the hurt I was gonna feel " A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage" so I had to let him go.
Note: nobody is bad to the core he possesses some good traits as well, but I don't think I can cope with his attitude when situations arise, and not speaking to me when he's going through stuff, I understand relationship isn't situational.
thanks for reading 🌹