"Oh, no! My children will be late to school this morning.” She just got up from bed, rushed to the kitchen to cook something for her family, and at the same time, she rushed to her children's room to prepare them for school.
She was very fast in preparing her family that morning.
“My dear, when will my car be ready because the work is much on me?” asked Mrs. Ajayi.
“I called the mechanic yesterday evening, and he told me he's still working on it but at the same time complaining; you don't do much work as I do; yours is to take care of children, cook for me, and also take care of the house.” Replied Mr. Ajayi
“But what do you mean by that? Do you think I'm not working by doing that? It is stressful too, I find it challenging to rest during the day due to the housework”. Mrs Ajayi replied to her husband.
But he decided not to reply to her, but he was busy with his breakfast. Some minutes later, Mr. Ajayi left for work.
Mrs. Ajayi seems to be a devoted and hard-working sister that I have; most often, when she comes around to visit her parents, she complains about how much the house chores seem to be too much, and that taking care of children is much on her. My mum advises her that she should take her time in doing them or, better still, tell her husband to employ a house help that will assist her with the house chores; what if she starts working, how will she manage herself with the house chores?
Mr. Ajayi believes that his wife is meant to be a full housewife, as long as he has a good job to take care of the family. He also believes that there is not much work as a housewife, he just believes that his wife seems to be a lazy person who nags a lot. Most frequently, his friends who come around to their home, they do praise his wife for the work, she does at home, they try to talk to the husband, he should try to employ a housemaid to reduce the stress for his wife, and he should also let his work as long she’s a graduate, but he refused. He’ll stop them and caution them not to pork into his family issue; that is how he wants it.
One faithful day, Mr. Ajayi got a suspended letter from work, he was asked to stay at home for a while due to an incident that happened in the company. It came as a shock to him, he wasn't expecting it.
Living seemed not to be easy for the family; they managed whatever was given to them by friends and family. Along the line, Mr. Ajayi got sick due to his thinking, which triggered an illness in him that no one didn't expect. This makes his wife get a job that will enable her to provide for her family.
A few months later, I had to move in to live with the family to help the husband take care of the children and also do some house chores. Mrs. Ajayi, who seems to be my sister, goes to work to provide for the family's needs. She ensured she tried her best to take good care of her husband until he got healed.
But things seem to turn around, the husband has to stay at home while his wife goes to work.
Mr. Ajayi didn't expect, he never thought, that his wife would be useful and also be a breadwinner for the home. It got to a time, I had to leave for school. He left along with house chores and taking care of the children.
He finds it not as easy as he thought. As time goes on, things seem to be clearer beyond his imagination.
One day, while he was feeding his children, he received a call from his friend. He stepped out to meet him to sort out something. When he came back, everything seemed to be like magic to him. The whole parlor was a big mess; his two kids used the butter to rub their bodies from head to toe and also the chair. It was a mess. He didn't know where to figure it out.
He had no option but to clean up the mess the kids had done. After doing that, he sat down with a deep within him,
“Wow OOo, I never knew that this is what my wife goes through. I think we need a house help that will help us with these chores,” Mr. Ajayi said.
When his wife came back that evening, he narrated to her what he faced; he looked at him and said, “That's how they stress me when I'm at home too.”
“At midnight, Mr. Ajayi wakes his wife up and apologizes to her how he talked to her without knowing how stressful it was.”
A few months later, he received a call from his workplace to resume back with immediate effect.
The couple employed a housemaid to help them with taking care of the house chores and also taking care of their kids.
When Mr. Ajayi got to work, he narrated to his wife that he had helped him out, throughout his stay at home.
How she has been there for him through the thick and thin of life when he thought he would fail as a breadwinner for his family, his wife stood up to be of help to him.
Ever since then, he has valued his wife beyond measure making him believe that his wife is truly a helpmate who could help him in his time of need.