Do you know that your happiest moment can sometimes lead to an unexpected manipulation?
You are happy, getting excited, and all of a sudden someone comes along to make a request. Sometimes, within that moment of excitement, it feels so natural to say yes . But you have to learn a life lesson from this moment. If someone tries to take advantage of your joy to ask for a favor, they might just be trying to manipulate you. Okay, let’s unpack.
Let’s unpack this and learn how to guard our hearts and commitments while still keeping living a happy life. Okay, let’s just picture this for a moment. You just got a promotion. You just got promoted at your office. Or maybe you are celebrating a big success. You are in an excited mood. Then out of nowhere, someone just comes and makes a request. Maybe they are asking you for a loan or a favor. Or for your free time to do a project for him that he is supposed to pay. But in your excitement stage, you just agree within a second without giving it a thought. Why you should? You are just happy and you want to share that goodness.
But here is the important thing. That your high feelings is just temporary and just for the moment. Emotions do fade away. But when you make a promise, it does not. When you are in that mood of excitement, you might find yourself stuck in commitments or in spending. And that’s what you end up regretting, which contradicts your true intention of the person who you are true to.
So manipulators have a spot. They always know how to spot vulnerability in people. And happiness can be an easy access way to exploit people. When they see your joy.
When they see your joy. your jaw, it starts as an open door to the moment where your guard is the least and you are more likely to say yes to their request without thinking through. This time around it’s not you making that decision, it’s your emotions trying to make the decision for you.
So how do we protect ourselves without losing ourselves? The key is to pause. When you are riding in that wave of happiness and so on, immediately make a request, take a deep breath, tell yourself, I will think about it later, not now. Just that simple pause can change a lot of things around you. It will give you time to let that emotional, that state of emotion settle before granting any request. And then you have to ask yourself, is this request, is it fair, does it align to your value, will it be beneficial to you? Or just take a while and think about the effect of granting that request and ensuring your commitment comes from a place of clarity, not just from a dopamine rush.
This does not mean that you should stop being generous and open-hearted, but happiness is a gift. I need to do it from your heart. And do it in a way that comes from intention, not through manipulation. If someone’s timing feels too perfect, that means they are trying to prey on your joy. And this is a very big red flag. So we have to man up, even just for a moment, and ask yourself, what is really going on?
And when you start giving the second thought to the request of people, you see there are two colors. Some will shine with kindness, while others might reveal a selfish streak in them.
The inspiring part is when you learn to support manipulation easily, then it’s time for you to know how to reclaim your power. You get to choose who gets your happiness, your time and energy. You are the gatekeeper of your commitments. Make sure you give it to those who are valuable to you and useful. Ensure that this reflects to the real you.
This will give you not just the momentary burst of excitement. And that is very freeing. You can still be joyful, generous at the same time and allow the wisdom to guide yo
u, always. So next time you’re in that state of happiness and someone just kicks in a request, just my pause and tell yourself, I’ll think about it. your joy is yours to share and on your own terms your kindness is yours to choose and on your own terms so stay sharp.