Most people are so used to living conveniently that the moment something isn’t going their way, they get frustrated, and it begins to feel like their world is coming down. And I want to believe that’s actually a normal thing in humans because, personally, when I get used to having things easy and unexpectedly begin to experience difficulties, I just find it hard to be resilient. I have to now re-psyche my mind that life is not a bed of roses and bad days are a thing.
A number of experiences I’ve had, proved to me that after having it easy in life, it’s a little hard to face tough situations. Don’t get me wrong, you can face them, but it’ll be tougher because, naturally, your whole existence would have been used to living easy, living soft. And that means any unexpected inconvenience becomes a big blow.
Let me give you a simple example. I was supposed to learn how to drive about a year and a half ago, but anytime my cousin tried teaching me, we ended up at an ice cream shop. I remember always talking him out of it, and then after looking at me make all the sad expressions in the world, he would just give in to my demands.
And that’s because I had people driving me anywhere I wanted. If you watch my vlogs, you’ll realize I normally say “my driver” a lot. No, I don’t have a driver; I just have friends and family who don’t mind taking me anywhere I want, so far as they are less busy. This has made me so used to being a passenger princess to the point where you can’t possibly leave me to drive on a street with other cars and people. Except it’s GTA, where nothing is real.
I’ve tried several times to take myself from one destination to another without asking for help, but I haven’t been successful. I always park somewhere and ask my brother or my friends to come and help me. There are times I even park and Uber my way to wherever I’m going. And then forget that I drove halfway, go home for someone to ask me, “where is the car”? before I remember, Oh, I actually left the car somewhere. All because I couldn’t continue being a driver as the passenger princess that I am.
It might sound funny, but that’s what convenience has done to me. I wanted to be serious and learn how to take full control of the steering wheel this year, but my plate is too full, and on days that I’m less busy, I find myself doing other things. But then again, that’s what happens when you are addicted to convenience. I know that I have people around me to help with that, and I’m so used to the comfort that comes with it to the extent that my brain just keeps on giving excuses.
Having access to a lot of things, especially things you need, is a good thing, but it’s also important to learn how to survive when there’s an inconvenience. That’s how resilience is built, and in this case, whether rain or shine, nothing stops you from moving in life.
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