I'm not a parent yet, but I think about the kind of parent I want to be all the time and to be honest its a big part of my motivation in life right now,the reason why I push myself, why I choose certain values, and why I’m selective about the things I allow into my life is because I’m already thinking about my future kids. What I didn’t have growing up, they must have, there's no two ways about that, i don't just mean material things, but emotionally, mentally, spiritually I want to give them a full and wholesome life.
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I’ve heard people say that kids must go through hardships to be wise, or to become strong and while I understand the sentiment, I don’t fully agree with it because most people say it just to console their poor naturel)a@l. Why should my kids suffer through the same battles I fought if I can build a bridge over those trenches for them? I’m working hard now so that they can start where I stopped, not from scratch like I did. I believe wisdom doesn’t always have to come from pain, It can also come from mentorship, exposure, and proper guidance,you can be trained in wisdom without having to be broken by life first.
First and foremost, I want my kids to know God deeply and personally. I wish I had understood certain truths about faith, identity, and purpose earlier in life, It would have saved me from a lot of confusion and wasted time so from a very young age i want my children to know who they are, why they’re here, and who they’re meant to become. That clarity will shape their decisions and make them run with vision from the start,this should be their biggest advantage.
In terms of parenting style, I honestly don’t see myself being the strict, “iron-hand” type, that statement "spare the rod and spoil the child" has been greatly misunderstood for millennials in my region,this has led to the abuse of children,i believe what that statement means is making sure you have authority over your kids not spanking yhem always. I earnestly want to be that safe space for my children, someone they can always run to without fear of judgment. I’ve seen how hiding struggles and bottling up emotions destroys people from the inside out, I’ve been there. A lot of young people crumble because they don't have anyone to talk to, or worse they talk to the wrong people and get wrong counsels. I want to break that cycle,I want to be the kind of parent who listens, who is present, and who makes it clear that nothing is off limits in our conversations.
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And yes, here’s a part some might find weird, I’ll definitely watch anime with my kids, I’m an anime lover, and I’m not ashamed of it, I'll be glad if i finally get a spouse that's into anime. In fact, I genuinely believe that anime has helped shape a lot of my thinking, my creativity, my sense of justice, my imagination, and even my emotional intelligence. Research has even linked anime and similar forms of art to higher levels of IQ and problem solving ability. So why not bring that into my family culture? Imagine us watching Attack on Titan, Naruto, or Your Name as a family, it’s not just bonding time, it’s also a way to discuss meaningful conversations. Anime often dives deep into themes like loyalty, sacrifice, pain, healing, and resilience,one major thing we can learn from anime MCs is persistence,never giving up until that unrealistic goal is reached, imagine your kids think that way, think of the change they'll give the world,i feel It’s an underrated teaching tool.
More than anything, I want my home to be full of peace, creativity, love, laughter, and honesty. I want to raise kingdom minded children who are not just smart and successful, but who also carry deep compassion, confidence, and clarity of purpose, I don’t want to simply raise kids I want to raise future leaders, creators, thinkers, and world changers.
In the end, I may not get everything right, but I’ll give it my all because my children deserve a head start. They deserve better than I had, and I intend to make sure they get it without apology.