Today, I want to share a story about a friendship that I have to let go due to a situation that was not under my control. I'd say it's not easy to talk about, but I hope this will inspire someone at the end to make that tough decision and choose peace over chaos.
Okay, three years ago, I had a close friend named Favour. We were very close like brothers. We laughed at jokes, planned our adventure, planned our life together, do things together, eat together, eat together, but over time, I began to notice a shift.
Favour started being overly critical, always concentrating on my flaws that was meant to break me down. She would neglect my feelings. When I tried, he would neglect my feelings when I tried to talk about it, and she always had arguments that left me drained, and instead of uplifting or making me learn new things, it was like all of a sudden, our vibe has turned to a toxic one, and I was working on a shadow of myself.
As a good friend, I tried to fix things. Sometimes, I would bring up a prayer gently, hoping that we could work it out, but Favour would always want to brush it off and get defensive, manipulative, and always gaslighting me. After months of feeling that this friendship would not work, I realized that it is time to protect my peace.
I tried to end the friendship once and for all. I didn't have a big fight or a big quarrel. I just slowly respected myself and stepped backward. I stopped initiating those plans that were never agreed by her. And when he tried to reach out to me, I kept her polite energy for energy. And eventually, we just stopped talking.
So looking back, you ask me what I do, I regret this. Honestly, sometimes, I miss the good times. He was my best friend. We shared a good moment together. And part of me wondered if I could see Tara to make the relationship work, but deep down, I knew the right thing to do was to go for my peace. The friendship was eating me up and letting me go. Allowing me the space to go and surround myself with people who truly valued me.
She taught me that it's okay to love yourself first and choose yourself, even when it's sad and not convenient. So if you are out there experiencing a friendship that is draining you slowly, it's okay to step away and seek back your peace.
Remember, you got only yourself first. It's okay to step away and seek back your peace. Remember, you got only yourself first. It doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you someone who values your own heart and yourself. It makes you someone who values your own heart and yourself.
The life you live is too short to be in a relationship that always reduces your value. with this is your value you are expected to choose peace at all time choose good and towards that you will make a better connection when the time comes.
