As time goes on and we grow older, some of our perspectives about life change.
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There was a time when I used to say that having a child or partner is not necessary, and not everyone will have one, even though it is true that not everyone will have a child, but it is necessary, and it is a joyful thing to have one.
I was loved and cared for by my parents and siblings, but right from childhood, I have always wanted to do things on my own. I never want to be a burden to anyone.
The last time I asked for my parents' support was when I was still in secondary school. I left home 2 months after I graduated from school, and since then, I never asked them for money.
The weird part was that I lacked a lot when I left home, but never for once did I remember that I had parents that I could call to send me money, yea it was not all rosy at home and probably that is why my mind didn't go there or just that my independent nature as taken over me completely... I just know that if I had made a call, my parent would give me something regardless of how tight it was, or they could give me a date they would send it...
The independent trait helped me a lot in life, I do not depend on people for help, and I don't pester people or ask them for stuff, I prefer solving my problems on my own, if someone even tells me that I should ask them for help when I need it, I am likely not going to call or message them for help especially when it deals with money because it is not just my thing.
This trait helped me to be hardworking and think well before making financial decisions, and I would love all my kids to have the trait.
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So scrap that I won't let my children go through what I went through. It is a learning phase, and they should not be deprived of learning so they can be useful to themselves and their family in the future.
Here are some things I would do and won't do..
It is not everything he desires that I would get for him: The habit of not wanting our children to suffer and hence we will buy whatever they crave for or want is a way to make them rely on us heavily and this could affect them in the future because they might not be motivated to work for their own money knowing their parent is always there to provide for them.
So sometimes we need to deprive them of something to make them understand that, at some point in life, they also need to work hard to get what they want.
I will guide them in fulfilling their dreams and making them a better person in life: It is the prayer of every parent that their children to be greater than them, the best way to make this happen is to guide them, send them to school and make sure they do not lack the tools needed to achieve their dreams through money and proper guidance.
I have many stories to tell my children, which I believe would motivate them. I would give them different seeds and water; it is up to them to decide which seed they would love to plant... I also believed that out of 4 children, there would be one who would take my ways if not all, and that one would be my favorite because he or she would be the one to guide and help his siblings in the future.
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