Life brings such a beautiful feeling. Sometimes you don't even notice the fact that life throws you into a moment that makes you pause and say wow "I think have changed a lot and i've put myself to a higher level"
That moment came few weeks ago from heated arguments with a close friend, we were just arguing on the minor issues and just disagreeing about something silly. I can remember it was just a plan for a trip that we planned to go together, but at some point things started to get very personal.
In the past i would love to snub and say things I regretted or try to hold grudges that sprouted out from the argument we had days ago, but this time I did something different as we started arguing and my friend raised their voice I felt that something not familiar, I didn't fire back and raise my own voice, but instead I decided to take my deep breath and just take things quietly without any words.
I waited for them to talk and when it was my time to speak I stayed very calm choosing my words carefully, I said okay now I will hear you, it's time to figure this out and all of a sudden the argument just fizzled out.
All I knew was that we ended the conversation laughing about how silly it's all went, that is when something hit me, it shows that I have grown so emotionally matured. I wasn't a hot-headed person again I used to be. Before I will always want to win every argument at any cost and even if it results to a fight, it doesn't matter.
This encounter showed me a lot on how much i have learned to choose peace over violence. I have stopped reacting so impulsively to things and start prioritizing understanding the matter more instead of reacting. It is not about being so perfect, it's about choosing goods over stagnation each day.
This taught me much and it has made me to be more patient not just with friends alone but with family members and myself too. I'm learning to let go of those small frustration and overthinking and focusing on what truly matters in my life, which is kindness, growth, connection, success and achievement.
If you had this such a moment like this where you realize that you have grown up and you have grown some kind of things it's a proof that you're becoming a better version of yourself. Maybe you started, you stopped all those bad habits, all those childish habits or you just stop stressing yourself over little things that does not matter.
This shows we are growing to becoming an adult.