There are some questions that when asked it helps one reflect on their actions and it becomes beneficial. That's the feeling that came to my mind when I read the question about friendship.
Although this is my first time here, I find the topic worthy so I want to share my story.
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There is an appointed time for everything, a time to build and a time to destroy.
I value relationships so much so that I can do anything to prevent them from breaking sometime even to the detriment of my own needs, just to maintain the relationship.
She stayed just four flat away from my flat we where so close to each other and this made our both parents close hence we became family friends.
Although she had some bad reputation in my neighborhood which I didn't see has an issue then because I felt people where just being busy bodies.
Some persons even adviced I quite being friends with her but I felt I could change her if she learnt to see life differently without being judged.
You can't change anybody who isn't
willing to change.
One red flag she waved at me was her jealous attitude, she went as far as seducing one of my suitors who refused her. She then lied that he was the one asking her out, I ignored it because I felt it wasn't enough reason to end the relationship.
My siblings never liked her because they could sensed the bad energy she was carrying. I was always defending her, telling them about some of her good part.
Just like someone in love
I wasn't
taking any advice.
During my wedding she was among my ladies, while I was getting dressed and the makeup artist was fixing my lashes my so called friend walked up to us and joking said she wished I would just go blind.
I was such a fool to still laugh over it even when the other ladies rejected it and warned against her.
The relationship continued until after I put to birth and I made a post about it on my status and my so called friend replied that" am I the first to put to birth and because I am married now I am feeling so big and important".
That was it, I gave her some of my words warned her never to contact me again I then blocked her.
That was how I ended a toxic, jealous, and unprofitable relationship. I didn't feel any regrets, I was blaming myself for tolerating too much. I should have ended things with her a long time ago.
Up until these day if I go back home we don't talk.
I would rather stay alone than to have an toxic friend who feels I am in a competition with her .