Hello everyone!
Today I will be participating in a topic by #hiveghana and the questions are
What kind of love is the best and what form of love have you given out and received in your romantic endeavours so far??
What kind of love is the best??
Unconditional love is the best form of love you can get. It's a love without any limitations and conditions. A genuine feeling and commitment to another person without caring much about the person’s behavior, flaws and imperfections. You will be willing to forgive the person even after what they did ,deeply affected you or hurt you . This love without any condition might be very hard to find,so if you feel anyone loves you unconditionally right now,hold them tight and never let them go or loose them.
The form of love I have given out and received so far in my romantic endeavour.
I haven't really had much girlfriends in my life. Though, I dated some girls back then while I was in the secondary school but it was just for fun and nothing else , nothing serious. The only girl I properly asked out was the girl I met in my first year in the university. She is an igbo girl and light in complexion. Fair girls are obviously my type so that was what grafted me to her.
We have broken up now, but i will be talking about the form of love I gave to her and the one i think she gave to me throughout the about 7 months we dated.
Yeah , I told her I love her but it was never unconditionally ,it was just because of some certain conditions. During that time,alot of my friends normally come back to the hostel after spending time with their girls and they will just be spilling the tea and talking about the dirty things and intimate stuffs they did together. As a single boy , i was jealous and I was searching for a girlfriend so bad,and somehow I and this fine girl met, and started talking and after several meetings ,she ended up falling for me. Luckily for me,she had a big bunda which was what I was looking for all along.
Just after one week after we met ,she already kissed me and that was my first kiss so I didn't even hesitate to use the L bomb and we started dating.
We started dating,and we don't even meet or talk about anything deep ,we just always did some sexual and intimate things. She was complaining I don't call her or try to check up on her and deep down in my mind I knew that was just because I don't even love her that much ,it was just because of she was very bad and flirty that I decided to be in a relationship with her.
They where times I will see her outside and I will just pass her by without even saying hello or hi to her.
I never spent a dime on her or even tried to gift her anything throughout the period of time we dated. Even on her birthday,I didnt give her any gift , i used a corny way to avoid that , and the only thing we did was to share a kiss.
I did think she loved me unconditionally because she never for once asks me for money or anything. Even when I told her I didn't have any money on her birthday to get her a gift ,she was still understanding and just said it's fine that I shouldn't worry or bother.
She is always trying to call me or check up on me at all times,even though I wasnt giving the same energy back. She shared alot of deep things with me that even her friends and parents where not aware of. I never treated her right ,but she never for once disrespected me or spoke to me in a rude way. She just wanted me to by her side at all times and that was enough for her.
We broke up,when I found out that she was having an affair with a boy she called her bestfriend after i read her chat with the boy on whatsapp. I never loved her unconditionally , so it was easy to let her go. I was sad and heartbroken, but I literally didn't blame her because I believe she was fed up with the way I treated her and didn't really show empathy towards her or even care or give her the love she needed and deserved.
Thanks for reading.