Good all ,
It's a new day and another day to write regarding the ongoing weekly contest on @hiveghana , I trust we all slept well last night and I believe our Today's activities are also going as planned.
Regarding this contest I earlier wrote my experience about reflection of childhood discipline which you can read about through this link below 👇
@lutherking147/my-entry-on-weekly-engagement
Today I will like to right about my opinions or how I think is best on parenting .
We are in a world where we have different parenting perspectives, everyone has how he or she thinks is the best for their children in raising them . Some parents even wealthy parents sometimes thinks is best to allow their children go through a lot of life's difficulties, to them they will say so that the child/children will have life's experiences which will equally help them to be able to take life more serious .
Other's too who went through alot as they are struggling with life has vowed never to allow any of their children to go through any kind of difficulty which they have went through.
Now when you check this two opinions you will notice that none of them has a negative value, you will still notice that the two opinions are made for the children's benefits, when one has life experience he or she will learn from it , it's not hate it's still out of love . When one didn't go through any difficulty because his or her parents are always making ways for them , that's still the act of love . Now which one do you think is the best way for one to raise their children? .
my opinion/ how I will like to raise my child:
I'm someone who was brought up in an average living family, that means my parents were just trying their best to help us grow good, but they weren't wealthy. They did their best to train us both in home training as well as putting us in school from nursery til our secondary educational level, some of us also were being sponsored to go through their university levels, so it's obvious that they tried their possible best . They didn't raise us in a Golden boot and they never trained us to be like we have all we needs. My parents do allow me to go out to the market and hustle by working for someone and also hulking some items like satchet wate, minerals, selling detergents etc.
I did all these things not because I had no option but because I felt like and my parents supported. The money I was making then wasn't for my school fees nor for any family expenses but I just wanted to hustle as my mates and my parents never stopped me . Today its helping me a lot , I'm someone who has been dealing with life's struggles independently, I hustle and takes care of my bills alone , this is not because I have no helper, I have siblings, true friends who can assist me if there's need , my parents are still there if I call for their assistance, but because of the way I was being trained, I sees it that I can live life independently and still be successful.
If my parents were giving me everything I needed or if they stopped me from taking a step to hustle on my own, maybe by now I will still be depending on them for every need I have. But it's not like that . This doesn't mean that it's best to suffer your children, neither am I saying it's best to pamper your children and never let them go through any hard Time, no instead what I'm trying to say is that , whether you are wealthy enough, or you are just managing,
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It's not good to allow your children to go through so Many hard times if it happened that you are able to give them all it takes .
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There's nothing bad to allow your children to face life sometimes, remember I said sometimes and not Everytime even if you don't have all it takes to give to them .
I will like to grow my child just as my parents trained me , reason is that, the world we are living in now is a world that will keep on getting worse, so things are already difficult to deal with and it will continue to be difficult even as time goes on, so when I train my child in a way that he or she can face life on it's own , it will really help him even when I'm not there . Another reason is that , this thing we calls wealth isn't something that always stay , it can vanish and leave you anytime because of any reason, it might be sickness that will cause it , it might be any other problems you might face , imagine it that you always gives your children everything they needs and wants because you have the money, and all of a sudden you have a problem that took all your money 😏, you will see that it will really affect you and it will affect your children also because you won't be able to provide for their needs unlike you usually do . But if it happened that you trained them well and allow them to face life alone sometimes, it will be easy for them to cope even when temptation comes.
that's my take
Thank you all for going through my write up and knowing my opinions, comment if we are in the same queue 😊