One of the beliefs I have held so high is that "the way we treat others especially when we’re angry, disappointed, sad or feel betrayed*, really says a lot about who we really are.
It has been kindness for me no matter the situation, kindness is non-negotiable. Nkt the one that only shows up during good times, but the type that remains even when it not been returned, the type that does not wait/want a payback.
Whata actually brought this out in me was a time that I was really breaking, I wasn't myself at all at that time, and so someone left it all to chose me, that act of kindness and love has sticked with me since then, and I have promised myself never to be the reason someone loses their softness.
Life can be hard, it was what I have and is still experiencing, we experience hardship and frustrations in our everyday life.... power outages, family struggles, societal pressures and many more, but even amidst all of this, kindness is still at work, I have seen people offer each other help, I was coming from work a particular day, I was not in a good mood this particular day, but on getting to the roadside I noticed this kids in uniform wanting to cross the road, I wanted to just go my own, this not a day for that, but something in me wouldn't allow that, I had to take off my red face cap, stand between the road and flag down the upcoming vehicles to stop so this kids(about 12) could cross to the other side.
There was a day I was just sitting outside my house and I saw someone from across, he was sweating so much which shows he's either tired or stressed out already, he bought a sachet of water, drank half and gave the rest to a stranger who asked him to get him one also, he checked his pocket and brought it out empty, so he gave out the one he was still drinking.....that's kindness.
Everyone of us is walking through storms. We still try to comfort each other with words even when we are not sure things will get better. And so, that human softness is something I refuse to let go of, even when life pushes me. I don’t shout at waiters at restaurants, I don't laugh at someones mistake, I am not stingy, I check up on people and many more, small as it may sound they are the little things I have trained myself to do and they help me in resisting this already harsh world of ours.
People will push us, and there are times I really want to act up..maybe someone disrespects, takes my kindness for stupidity or take me for granted. But then I feel to remain me, I shouldn't be defined by who/what someone else chooses to be. Not a pushover, but I still maintain that me, not as if I am not firm, but not with cruelty, I still choose empathy, kindness, softness, integrity and such even when the world seems to speak another language.
So, kindness is my non-negotiable, not only because the world needs more of it, but because I really do, my peace depends on it, even though imperfect I am, I still don't want ro be bitter or be the reason someone sees us all as same....
And no matter what happens, I will never let the world turn me into what I am not/hurt me.
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