There are times which we want to become something else not just what we are. We're trying to fit in in a particular situation or personality. Most of the time she does not end up the way we want it and sometimes it might end up the Way Way taught it will be but then the process is not just an easy one. Fitting in into something you are not already or something you are not meant for is a way of losing the peace of mind you have to nothing and to something which you may not be able to have. Being you is the best thing you can ever do for yourself people have their own way of life the way they behave and other things but you trying to force yourself to become that which you are not is hurting and another thing all together. While growing up we experience a whole lot of association and gang, a group of certain persons, okay love to do their things their own way in the way that please them, that will attract a society or other persons. In a group of girls way often sees such things.
As a woman while growing up, back in those things in secondary school and primary School, we always have this group of girls that always roll on their own and their own way every other girl is in school will like to be like them or mingle with them. Honestly they are aware of life then was so attractive that you would like to be friends with them but then they live a luxury life but even an average individual may not be able to afford. So for you to be your friend and stay steady you have to meet up with their standard. At first I was admiring their friendship from a far, then I have to meet with one of them and ask what does it takes to become your close friends, anyways the laugh at me and say that I cannot meet up to the standard I was so ashamed of myself, then I left and I regretted meeting them...
That made me to stop mingling where I'm not accepted, there are things I learnt from that incident which I don't forget in a hurry. I know very well that that gang is not for me and I am not going to fit in there but I insisted to give it a try. Sometimes trying to fit in can be in a positive way but then negative aspect of it is more talked about and largely influence in the society. In a situation where you are not getting peace in trying to fit in you better leave that process because it will cost more harm than good.
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