I wasn't going to write on this topic as it felt like every other entry I read of this topic seem to be sharing my thought on it already but there's a difference with the experiences as my dad is different from other dads just as other dads are different from mine. Does my dad fall under this category of "Mild hatred towards the male gender friend of his daughter"? Oh yeah, he very much fall into the category and even way too much.
My dad's attitude towards these guy friends around me seem to be justified by the fact that he had to take care of his daughters himself with no help from our mother. Mum left when I was like six, obviously at a time I knew nothing about the opposite sex and it's world of own understanding. So dad had to step up his fatherhood when I got older and began to have male friends around.
To be very honest, dad didn't know much about how to guide his girls from being misled by those young hot blooded guys and so he simply just shun every guy away from us whenever he saw them around us. I felt it was way to harsh considering the fact that I grew up to understand through other elder ones that guys are not to be played around with just anyhow I like to.
I only wished dad could understand that I know much better not to be misled and it would be my fault if I mess up with guys when I am not ready, but I also understand that dad had a lot to protect when I shun the guys away. He had no one to watch over us when he is away and so he gets overly protective when he is around and some guy is lurking around his precious daughters.
I may never really understand fully why my dad acted all the ways he did growing up with him until I have my own kids or witness my husband being that way to his daughter as well. I'm sure the acts of fathers to their daughters' boyfriends have a lot to do with how they grew up, what they've heard and what they've seen their fellow gender do as regards to the female gender.
But one point I'll only wish that every father or guy should understand is that, not every guy is as bad as they are perceived. The generalization of the thought that all guys are dangerous to their daughters or sisters is too strong and would do no harm if some considerations are given before any attitude is displayed.
Up till now, my dad still acts someway when he sees a new face (particularly a guy's face) in the house but nowadays, he understands any explanation we give to him about the face he saw and a lot of times, he warms up to them and even offers them gifts or good meals through us. I'm guessing the man is getting ready for incoming suitors who are ready to take care of his daughters 😂
So my conclusion is that, it is justifiable to an extent that dads act that way towards their daughters guy friends but there should be a limit and timing to this, the once little girl (daughter) would be a lady (ready for marriage) some day too. Dads have got to prepare their minds for that and so get in act on how they had been towards the guy friends of their daughters before. This is my entry to the Hiveghana prompt about "Dads and their daughters guy friends", feel free to join in
