What do you think is the best way to correct a child? Is it corporal punishment or through word of mouth ? Which do you think is most effective and why?
I know I am not a mom yet but at least I know the right tools to use when disciplining a child..
I grew up in a home where my parents didn't flog us Orr the use of corporal punishment... Infact punishing a child regularly doesn't stop the child from doing what he/she usually does, rather, it increases the wrongs....
Growing up, my dad especially will Correct you with the right use of words but 贸m贸r.... It's more painful than punishment. He doesn't spank or use harsh or negative words.... When he Finish the correction and you will cry, he knows you are broken, he will later call you to his room and start preaching to you what Hebrews 12 vs 6 says. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives."
My dad will use that portion to win your love again, that way you will know that daddy is correcting us because he loves us and next time we won't do something that will pain daddy so that he will keep loving us... . Very simple, no use of fowl languages or causes....
I will be sharing with us the best methods of correcting a child instead of using corporal punishment.
Show and tell a child that he/she is wrong
If you just wake up to a child and flog the child without telling the child what he has done wrong, it's not proper because the child has little or no knowledge of what he has done.... Let them know that this thing is wrong.
Call the child, ask the child, why did you do this calmly without shouting... He will even respond truthfully.... Show the child that what he did was wrong, correct the child with love, that way the child will learn and know....
Meanwhile, if you keep flogging a child as s form of correction, he will keep lying to you he para venture be afraid because the child knows that if mummy finds out, she might hit him.
Tell your child consequences of doing something wrong
Instead of beating up a child mercilessly, call the child to other...
Why do you like throwing your toys aways, the next time you will throw or destroy you toys I won't get s new one for you...
That is you giving the child consequences for throwing away his toys and next time he knows that if he destroy his toys, he will be topless and that way he is more careful.....
Another consequences is for instance, you usually give your child food to go to school,but he keeps coming back with full plate...
Tell the child, anything I give you food to go to school, a d you bring it back full... You will see stop the use of lunch box.... The way the child has been corrected without the use of punishment.....
But in all the consequences you give to you children, please never starve that food because they did something wrong...
Sometimes ignore you child and know when to respond to them
Ignoring a child when he does something wrong is a natural way of disciplining a child...
When he does something that is not good and you see it, ignore it because he will Carry his own hands to dig his consequences and punishment....
For instance, anytime you give a child biscuits, he will break them and throw it away, deep down you know that he loves biscuits, but for some reason, he keeps wasting the food....at some points you will stop giving the child biscuits, he will notice on his own that this thing he has been doing wasn't good that's why mummy stopped giving him more biscuits... That way he will stop throwing anything valuable not only biscuits.... That way the child has been corrected without marks on his body....
Allow them know when they do something right
When your child does something right, appreciate them for been good, not everytime you will keep pointing out that they are wrong...
They will be happy anytime mummy tell them **wow, good boy, you did this thing well and perhaps it comes with a perk, that way, the child will always want to impress you not get your angry.
Seriously, I wish I can talk on more but let me stop you...
But parents should stop using corporal punishment on children, it will only make them turn bad, hate you and think you don't love the child please.... Correct the child with a tender and calm voice, correct with Love, it's easy that way
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