Cutting off friends and buddies is something some people see as a good thing most people see it as painful 😣, me I see it as a good thing cause for one that friendship/relationship might be a toxic one, so for me it's best to be sane and without a particular person than be in that friendship and run mad. I have had several experiences where I just sprung up one day and chose myself over them all. Sometimes some of our friends leave our lives because of geographic distance not because they are bad or because we are bad.
When I gained admission into the university I met two Wonderful souls in school together with my friend who used to be my brother's girlfriend making us four amazing friends and we all vibed well, but along the line getting to our second year I noticed that I was doing the most, doing the most in the sense that i am the kind of person that love my space please i don't go to people's house you don't come to my house i prefer being alone.
If I leave my house because of you just know I love you with everything in me including my brain 🤣 you see these particular girls I go all out for them even till today but at a limited rate. Even when I am sick I go out for them when they are sick, you might say I want attention 😁 because one of them told me that but the answer is no. I like getting the energy I give out in return but the reverse is the case.
My roommate who just graduated knows I don't like visiting people and I don't like people coming into my house, don't worry I don't have anything to hide also I'm not an introvert but life has lessons to give 😁 where was I? So as I was saying I could literally give these girls the key to my house or tell them my roommate is around I will call her and tell her you are coming but my roommate sometimes wouldn't let them in cause according to her they are bad friends until I beg her to do so.
I would never forget the day I was going to class as I was in a shuttle going to class I just felt the urge to go to her hostel(one of them) I ignored it until I got to her hostel and met her seriously sick I took was feverish that day but I carried her on my back and ran all the way to the sickbay and called her mum cause our parents were close our Dads work in the same office and she was treated I even went out of my way to bake a cake for her on her birthday cause she was still in the hospital.
When I was in the school hostel my roommates all dealt with malaria and I was their mother all through so they called me 😁🤣 they all recovered and I was at work one day in my second year a cold sensation hit me and that was it, how I got to the hostel I don't know I was so sick that I couldn't move any part of my body except my lips one of my elder sisters friend who is also a student was next door so my roommates called her and she took care of me cause she is a nurse, she literally had to bend my head backwards to give me tea for days.
When I told my friends about it guess what the said ?
Sorry you hear, but wait are you that soft that your sickness got to that level.
I was dumbfounded, like are you guys listening to yourselves, what are you saying. Who's cutting onions? 😭.
The last straw that broke the camels back was when it was exam period and I told one of them to allow me stay in her house for some days so I could be able to read after going back and forth she finally agreed the first day we read together and when I came back my roommate was so happy that i could stay outside in someone's house overnight, that aside the next time we scheduled to meet and read she kept posting and posting me come tomorrow come next week i got so frustrated i had to beg my roommate to tutor me. God bless my roommate.
I and my roommate were in the same department but she was a level higher than me, my dear roommate gladly agreed to tutor me from the beginning of the exams till the end, don't mind me i find it hard to read alone. I just decided this girls don't love me on several encounters I have been left behind it's either I'm not up to their grades or they just don't want to be around me. Could you believe I was in a friendship all by myself without knowing 🤣🤣 cause they recently formed another pact.
In all I would say friends are a replacement for siblings who are far and even close but even friends can be replaced, I decided to choose me over any toxic relationship I still say hello hi to them but we are no longer buddies please.
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