I am not yet a parent, but I think about parenting a lot. Maybe because of the kind of things I experienced while growing up. Many times, I hear people say, “My children will never go through what I went through,” and I understand that feeling. No one wants their child to suffer or face the same struggles they did. At the same time, I also believe that some level of challenge is necessary to build strength and prepare children for the real world.
For me ooo I won’t say my childhood was totally smooth. There were times things were really hard, but all of that shaped me into who I am today. It made me understand pain, patience, and how to survive even when things are tough. But it also left scars that I don't want my children to carry. So, my idea is not to make them go through what I went through, but to raise them in a way that they are strong mentally, emotionally, and spiritually without exposing them to unnecessary hardship.
I want to raise my children to know that life is not always fair, but you must keep pushing. I will teach them how to handle rejection, failure, and pressure, because these things will definitely come in life. I don’t want them to be too soft that little things will break them down, and I don’t want them to be too hard that they can’t feel or care. There has to be a balance in it....we all know life is not balance
One thing I’ll try to do is to be open with them. I want to be the kind of parent that explains things, not just command and control. I want to teach them about value the value of hard work, honesty, kindness, and confidence. I want them to ask questions and challenge ideas, not just accept everything. The world they are going to live in is not the same as the one I grew up in, so I need to raise them for the future, not the past.
Also, I believe in letting kids learn from experience. I won’t always be there to protect them, so sometimes I will allow them make mistakes and learn from it, but I’ll always be close to guide and support them. That way, they’ll grow with wisdom, not just book knowledge.
In summary, I want to raise strong and wise kids. Not kids who must suffer like I did, but kids who are prepared to face life with courage and smart thinking. Life is hard, but with the right training and love, our children can be ready for it.thank you.
