Greetings hive!
As the saying goes, no one is perfect but with our imperfections, we still to some certain extent bear with each other no matter whose sore is gore. Many atimes do good, but not many complete their good deeds. I have had serious relationships with friends and family in the past and even presently with mixed experiences. Some are good to me and some in their dealings with me are not worth it. Though, I'm not also perfect and not all I'm doing is good, but I still maintain and manage my relationship with whoever comes my way.
I'm this kind of a person that doesn't get used to people as quick as possible, but once I get close to anyone in a relationship, I don't joke with the relationship. In fact, I do sacrifice all that I have and everything within me to maintain and sustain any relationship I find myself.
Let's me quickly share this experience of mine with you. This experience I'm about to share happened between me and my cousin whom I trusted so much. I love him and trusted him so much to the extent of committing everything I have or imagine to do into his hand. This is due to our closeness and living together, we grew up together and always having everything in common. But at certain point in time, I decided to start up a business and I was looking for whom to partner with. So, after so many consultations, I settled for this my cousin ( Eben) and told him what the business entailed and then proportion to be shared between both of us whenever we have supplies. This is because the business is about the supplying of building material. So he agreed and we both agreed together.
So, I committed all my resources to starting the supplying of granite and stone dust business through my money, time and energy. Though, I was still an undergraduate when I started the business, so I did a flier and business card, and the only thing required of this my cousin is to just follow the truck to the site which when we started, he used to do. But, it got to a time, when he changed the narrative of the business and hijacked everything from me due to my unavailability. He started by spending the capital on his newly found girl friend with telling me. I only got to know this whenever we have supply and maybe the capital with him will not be sufficient to do the supply. By this, I asked him what was going on and he will be like the customers has not paid. It's then I knew there's fire on the mountain and I decided that all money should be paid into my account which he vehemently opposed and this is where issue started..
After taking the decision of paying into my account, he started misbshaving and will not even carry me along again when it comes to supplying our customers. How is he now doing the supply? He used to borrow money from his friends and these people will borrow him and after the supply, he pays them back. when this got to me, I got angry not because he was supplying people, but because he has hijacked all what I have worked for, my idea, and the customers. So, I informed those people that were very close to him to call him to order. These people call both of us together just to settle the issue. When we both got there, this my cousin was telling me, that I was not the one that introduced him to the business and that it was his fiance that introduced him to the business. He also said, how can I be expecting anything from the proceed of the business when I was not available and that it's only a mad people that work for others to eat. He said,, we should go our separate ways. Yes I knew I made mistake of trusting people, I knew I made mistake of not being available. But, the most painful thing is being betrayed by someone I loved and trusted with everything within me. So, this my cousin hijacked my everything including my vision to build an empire which made me to start all over again. What a setback? Although he later begged me and I have forgiven him. But I have made up my mind that nothing will bring us together again. This means "NO SECOND CHANCE FOR THE WICKED".
So to trust people is now difficult for me. That my cousin is now living large with the same business, but I thank God I have learnt my lessons and bouncing back to life..
This is my entry to this week hivenaija prompt.
ALL PHOTOS ARE MINE.