One friendship I know that I ended was because they were bad influence, so this is what happened that period, then I was a teenager, still fresh out of high school, I got into the mix of this set of friends that I met when I got a job as a sales representative at a sports betting organisation.
See at first, I honestly thought they were cool,i mean, I always admired the way they dressed , fresh clothes, clean sneakers, hair always done neatly, It felt like they had life all figured out, and me being just a teenager trying to find my footing, I thought, “Why not? These people could be my circle.”
So, we started talking, from there, hanging out became a regular thing, We would gist after work, sometimes grab food together, and they had this carefree vibe that at first felt exciting, but the more time I spent around them, the more I started noticing things that did not sit well with me.
It was not anything too obvious in the beginning, but little by little, I just begin to realised they weren’t people who were really trying to grow or be better, their conversations, their priorities , everything seemed to be about showing off and doing things that didn’t really add anything meaningful to life, I didn’t want to admit it at first, because I already felt like I was part of them, but deep down, I knew I was nof going to get anywhere if I continued being with them.
The final straw happened after a mistake, one I would not want to say what it is,but it was bad enough to wake me up completely, I felt so disappointed in myself because I knew that if I had not been in that circle, I wouldn’t have been in that situation at all, that period was so rough, i felt hurt, embarrassed, and more than anything, I knew I had to make a change fast.
So, I just cut ties, there was no drama, no long explanations , I just distanced myself completely, and when the opportunity came to move to another state, I did not even think twice, I left everything behind, including them, It was my way of starting fresh.
Yeah now till today, I have never regretted that decision, If anything, it taught me the importance of guarding my space and also being intentional about who I allow in my life, it is crazy how much influence the wrong people can have over you without you even realising it.
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See that experience also just made making friends a bit more difficult for me, i am not as quick to open up or get close to people anymore, I do take my time, like i observe, and also I make sure that whoever that I call a friend is someone whose values so much align with mine.
So yeah..., walking away from that friendship was really one of the best decisions I ever made in my life and I would do it again without even blinking.
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