One of the hardest truths in life is that no one helps anyone much, be it in jobs or studies, and even if they do, it doesn't last long. Many times we think that he is like a brother, he is a very close person to me, he will teach me the job, this elder brother is telling me, he will refer me for a job, we sit there trusting in this way. But the real reality is that people are busy with their own lives, they don't have time or responsibilities for you.
I myself have been through such a situation. Once I thought that my seniors would guide me, explain the aspects of job preparation, someone would hold me while I learned programming. But as time passed, I realized that they were so busy with their own work that they didn't have the opportunity to give me time. Even if someone has good intentions, it never comes to fruition in reality. Then a change came inside me, "If I keep going like this, I will never be able to learn anything, I will not get a job.
From then on, I started learning on my own. I kept learning new skills through YouTube, Google, Coursera, and even reading books and small tutorials. I started learning programming, computer skills, interview tips, how to write a CV, all through my own efforts. At one point, I saw that the tasks that I used to look to others for, I can now do them myself.
The same is not only in education, but also in jobs. Suppose, you think that there is such and such a brother, if you refer him, you will get a job." But in reality, when you need it, many times it turns out that brother is unavailable, maybe he has changed jobs, maybe he is having his own problems, or he is also unable to rely on your skills. Then you can only feel how helpless you become at that moment.
That is why I say that if you are waiting for someone, life stops. If you do not try yourself, if you do not prepare yourself, then no one can take you forward. Education, computer skills, communication skills, English, and even self-confidence can all be learned. But the only condition is that you have to have a self-learning mindset. You have to learn by searching for yourself, learn from mistakes, and learn through hard work. Once you start doing that, you will see that those you were hoping for will eventually ask you for help.
Give up the hope that someone will ‘give’ you something in life. In today’s job market or competitive world, it is difficult to survive without being self-reliant. For your future, for your dreams, to give your family a secure future—you have to rely on yourself. So don’t sit around, don’t wait for anyone, start learning, even if you are alone.