Have you ever experienced such kind of situation where you did feel limited by the choice of avoiding something or perhaps someone? Yes, again I am here with another strange question so don't mind me :P. anyone who will agree with my thoughts can put his/her opinion in the comment section. I am looking forward to getting a response on this weird question XD.
What would you do if your fortalice becomes your prison? Would you feel like a prisoner? would say if your fortress is becoming your prison then there would be a big question on your safety. You can't feel safe in your own fortress. And many people go through such situation where they try hard to get over it. I can relate to it because it is the most painful thing anyone can have. When you try to avoid something you desire the most is the ultimate trap for you. And when we look at the other side of the mirror then avoiding situations is not a solution as well. It doesn't make it to go away but it does make it better at stifling us.
So what's the solution to this? When you discuss such stuff with someone they will give you the advice on what you can't practice really. They will suggest if your own fortress is becoming a prison and suffocating you then leave it. And try to confront your fear. Deal with the problem you are going through. But is that so easy? Why should we leave our fortress in order to get rid of our fears? There can be another solution, right?
What I am feeling right now is my mind has created a prison for me. I am trying to avoid my feeling because my feelings are the biggest fear I am going through. But If i decide to confront my fear means my feelings I scare I will fall into a trap where I wouldn't be able to get out myself. On the other hand, avoiding situations, feelings etc is not a solution either. There is saying when you start avoiding things you stop growing. So the conclusion is, whatever the situation or condition is we must learn to face anything that comes our way. This is the only right attitude and we need to practice it.
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