Tim LaHaye, a renowed American author on temperament said, and I quote, 'there is hardly a function in life that is not influenced by temperament'. Temperament is You!, yes, You,why act, or always act the way you do. Temperament is the unique and special abilities in human beings, It is the traits, tendencies and characteristics that shapes individual's behaviour, emotions and interactions. It serves as foundation upon which our personalities are built, reflects in our decisions, reactions to the world.
Even though, am always curious about my personality and that of others, why do I not get angry at what make some angry, why do I get emotional at some points and others find it difficult, I didn't know it'sTemperament that is at work until I get to university at age Nineteen, a roommate of mine always have reason on why someone behaved in a particular manner, for instance, if somebody used to keep to herself in the room, doesn't associate with others, rarely talk, My roommate will say such person behaved that way because she is either melancholy or phlegmatic. Anyone who is more extrovert, assertive and man of all season is Choleric or sanguine. This then prompt me to lay my hand on Tim LaHaye, Why You act the way You do and Spirit Controlled Temperament.
My journey on Self Discovery started when I started reading these books, I got to find out that there are four major temperaments. Although, a man may have a blend of two, three or four,but one will dominate. Two of these temperaments are extroverts, while the other two are introverts.
Choleric and Sanguine are under extroverts, they are bold, assertive, outspoken and don't easily bowed to pressure. while Choleric is a born_leader, decisive, strong willed and autocratic, Sanguine is a man of party, sociable, enthusiastic, indecisive.
Melancholy and Phlegmatic are introverts, these are deep thinkers, analytical, emotional, reserved and loyal. But, while phlegmatic is sluggish in decision making, melancholy is perfectionist.
It should be noted that I once said, One can have a blend of two, three, or all. I discovered that I am PhlegSang.The combination of extreme introvert and extrovert. Knowing the fact that am procastination, indecision, inconstitence motivation, avoiding conflict are the downside part of my temperament, and honestly hate the downside, but the truth and it's reality is in every of my day to day activities, I experienced, perceived and noticed all the traits.
Should I just sit down and be watching? expecting miracles? to bring me out of my shell? to conquer procastination? to be avoiding conflicts when others are maltreating me? No!
And that start the journey to defining ME! and these I did, am doing and will still do!
Setting Boundaries
Initiates setting.
Cultivating Emotional Expression.
Developing Growth Mindset.
Prioritizing Task.
Practicing Self Care.
Adjusting and shifting the downside of my temperament to suit the personality I want hasn't been easy, but not adjusting at all is dangerous expecially if I want to be that Woman I desire to be, therefore, a little here, a little there, my efforts will pay.