Good day everyone, yet another week coming to an end sending down my pleasantries from this side, I did not want this topic to pass me by base on the richness in the topic so am here to take just a little of your time and I hope it would be worth spending.
WHAT THEN IS MARRIAGE?!
some would say marriage is the coming together of a man and woman in holy matrimony, others would say it is the leaving of one's parent to form yours, some would even tag it as a place where you go to rest from all the baggages of life, others would say it is the idea of bonding and raising godly offspring. To me marriage is a branch that entails commitment, sacrifices, shared responsibility, intimacy often love and affection which are been made by two individuals who are in that state of agreement.
WHICH DO I PREFER?!
let us run through the three marriage shortly before we get back here. We have the traditional, court and religious, For the traditional It's relays on customs the way things are done (rituals) which is attached to the cultural pattern, For court marriage it deals with the law involving constitutional formalities sealing one's marriage with an agreement base off on something and the last is Religious marriage which is the quiet popular one involving one's faith.
Just like the normal system of doing both the traditional and the white know as religious marriage infact some people go as far as doing all three of them but my preference is going for the traditional that is sealing things in the traditional way before going for the religious marriage which we called white wedding. I can't say I would just choose one because they definitely have their significance, some belief that one get blessings while doing in the traditional way and there is our faith, can you actually start something and you would want to succeed without putting God first? So you see I would prefer the traditional then the religious marriage follows suit.
WHAT FALLS AFTER ALL THESE...
Doing all those marriages actually has its advantage certainly why people do them but what comes after not many sit to discuss these, the success of a home afterwards is not determined by the biggest wedding party thrown or the best dress worn by the bride, or the number of attendance or the gifts received but by those two individuals having the same values, their dreams going align, same goals, set achievement that guide their steps forward, by those two individuals having mutual respect for each other with commitment to that relationship, having a good communication between each other because what actually keeps a relationship floating is how they are able to communicate.
There are actually many more things to consider for a successful home but I was opportune to go through these few listed here, so my advice to those in courtships, relationship, friendship or any other "ships" heading to marriage is when it gets to that point of marriage choose a marriage type that works for both you and your pockets, work on your communication skills so that you can discuss things to expect in the marriage, your carrier path, choice of the numbers children to have and many more, communication give room for many things that would make you to feel comfortable even before the marriage and another thing is understanding your partner, no don't say if we get there we would know each other better, start it from now because understanding your partner doesn't start after the "I Do" it starts in that "ship".
Some people never got to know all these things that is why they enter bad marriage but I would love to say it's never too late to savage it, yes something can still be done, do not give up yet.
Thank you all for allowing me take some minutes of your time and I hope it was well spent, in love and harmony spend this weekend in joy. I still remain your girl @graceze see you next week.