I always feel like there's something people don't always talk about enough, the strength it takes to enjoy your own company.
These days, a lot of people are scared to be alone. They always want to be around others, talking, going out, or keeping busy just to avoid silence. But I’ve learned something different. I’ve learned that being by yourself can actually bring you peace and peace is more important than noise.
But let me be honest, I wasn’t always this way. Back in my teenage years, I couldn’t stay alone at all. I was always looking for someone to talk to, somewhere to go, or people to hang out with. I loved being around people. I used to say things like, I can’t be alone or I get bored alone. I felt more alive when I was with others, and I thought that was the only way to be happy.
As I grew older, things started to change. Life opened my eyes in ways I didn’t expect. I started noticing that being around people all the time doesn’t always bring happiness. In fact, sometimes it brings stress, gossip, problems, and fake energy. I began to experience situations that made me tired emotionally. I found myself in the middle of things I didn’t need to be part of, all because I didn’t want to be alone.
That was when I started staying by myself more. At first, I was confused. I used to wonder if I'm sad or something is wrong with me, But slowly, I began to understand that I wasn’t sad at all. I just needed time to breathe. I needed to be away from noise and pressure. I needed to enjoy peace and quiet for once.
Little by little, I started enjoying my own company. I found new ways to keep myself happy. Most times, you’ll find me on my phone, doing one or two personal things, maybe organizing my life, writing, learning something new, or just doing things that help me grow.
I also listen to music a lot. It helps me relax and lifts my mood when I’m down. Honestly, music has become one of my best friends.
There are days I just stay in my room and enjoy the silence. I might be lying down, thinking, watching a movie, or just breathing and letting my mind rest. I don’t feel bad about it anymore. In fact, I enjoy it, most times, I’ve realized that I don’t always have to be everywhere or talk to everybody. I’ve learned that peace is better than popularity. Quiet time is better than confusion.
I’ve also come to understand that not every friendship is real, and not every group is meant for you. Being by myself has helped me avoid a lot of problems. I now protect my space. I choose who I allow into my life. And I don’t feel guilty about saying no or stepping back when I need to.
That doesn’t mean I don’t like people , I do. I still enjoy good conversations and real friendships. But I don’t depend on them like I use to anymore. I’ve learned to love myself first. I’ve learned to be happy with or without company.
Now, being alone feels peaceful, not painful. It feels like rest, not punishment. I’ve built a safe space inside myself, and I’m proud of it.
So, if you’re scared of being by yourself or always trying to fit in, I hope my story encourages you. You don’t need noise to be happy. Sometimes, the best healing and growth happen when it’s just you and that’s perfectly okay.