My love mistakes ,well talking about love, love is very vast and love encompasses everything about life.
It is mutual and not parasitic,these are types of scientific relationships and these two can also related to love. A mutual kind of love both parties benefit while in a parasitic kind of love is done when one party benefits only for the interest of one person and that can really affect a relationship or friendship love is not only for the opposite sex but also love is seen in same sex, love is seen in mother to child, love is seen in brother to brother love is seen in father to daughter, love is seen among friends, colleagues, classmates love is seen among business partners in all ramifications of life love is being displayed, before you can have most conversations freely with people and air out some vital information it has to be encompassed by love before you can begin to like a person they must be an atom of love deep down in you, you can't like who you don't love...
Well love can be denied and once love is denied it is called betrayal and before trust is built love is the place the bridge of trust is built on this on the ground of love and love and likeness go perpendicularly so when loving you need to like when liking you need to love depending on the kind of love.
like in the bible there is a kind of love Jonathan and David shared which is called the philia kind of love searching in our modern day today it is rare to find that kind of love Jonathan loved David irrespective of knowing that David was even qualified for the throne that was to be given to him he didn't mind he didn't see that David was an opponent but he loved David up to a level he didn't care if David would become the the next king instead of him. most people love because of interest and in our modern day world I'm not sure we can find such kind of love being displayed and portrayed are we getting it wrong somewhere?
But well knowing all this about love there are some common mistakes I made back in the days about love. I neglected discipline yes and neglected philosophy and neglected boundaries I refuse keeping my boundaries well while loving you need to be disciplined enough so that the other person knows his or her boundaries and you need to also discipline yourself not to cross other person's boundaries because everybody has his or her quiet and private time which need to be respected now they are excesses so too much accommodation of excesses spoils a lot of things even the bible said love knoweth no wrong it talks about the place of forgiveness you have to forgive but don't let yourself be fooled and also the bible also said how long?
So how long do you think that expectation you are expecting from your partner is gonna work do you think that person is gonna really change you have given six months three months nine months a year, years gone down well the person has already configured himself or herself for that kind of life or character if you continue that is stupidity,
Love sees red flags but love only tolerate what is not harmful in the future love only tolerate weak points not red flags be wise and choose carefully, kindly portray love in a right manner portray love with discipline portray love with self-esteem, portray love without expectations, portray love without self-interest love is not directed or at a specific point it plays a roles both in good times and bad times...
Finally,When I was much younger I use to give all I had and remain with nothing,it continued for a long period of time,but I soon discovered that love is sharing not rejecting yourself for others,While you love build value for yourself......
Don't give until you become a beggar tomorrow,give with meaning and for an important purpose........
Let love lead.........