Greetings!
One thing about life is that we need good people around us, but even at that, we must know that having good people around us comes with a big task and this big task is that, we too must be good in our own right and we must be able to tolerate others weaknesses.
In the past, I have seen people quitting a relationship just because of a simple mistake of those they called their friends. Though, the person was guilty of what he did to his friend, quitting the relationship shouldn't have been the best idea at that time as this later caused that person some opportunities that he would benefit from the relationship he quitted.
During that time, I told him to quit the relationship since no one is above mistake as he too can do the same, but Femi wouldn't listen to me and that the end as he could not have access to the person in question now who has turned a new leaf and is helping those around him. Femi thought he could live without him.but i told him one is an island. Although Femi too is not doing bad, he would have gone far than what he's today.
However, I'm not saying we should not quit a relationship, especially when the relationship is not healthy. All I'm saying is that we should try our best in settling the differences amicably without hurting one another. In fact we should not fight to finish if preadventure we are going to quit that relationship.
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I have shared that of my friend with us, permit me to share my own little experience with us the more, some time ago, while I was in a close relationship with a friend, I got offended with the activities and behaviour of this friend of mine and I decided to quit my relationship with him but along the line, my dad told me not to quit the relationship or fight to finish as there's opportunities ahead, but at first, I was reluctant to yield to his advice but his persistent advice would not allow me to take the decision on my own, so as a result, I resolved the issues that's causing the crises between both of us amicably and we continued with our friendship.
So, it's later, after many years that we have resolved our differences with each other that I now realized what my dad told me about the great opportunities that's accrued to staying put in the relationship rather than quitting. I could remember that my dad told me that no one is perfect and that no man can live on his or her own. He told me back then that all I need to do is to strengthen my friend's weaknesses and that he too would do the same. My dad also told me that if the eyes could look carefully, it would see the nose.
Furthermore, it's all these admonitions that made me take that decision back then and now after taking the decision, I have been enjoying every bit of my life in the relationship and I have never regretted drinking from the cup of my father's experience which had put me on the right track. When I later asked my dad about how he got to see the future, what he told me was that, “experience is the best teacher, and that whatever an elder sees while sitting, a small child will not see, even if he climbs the tree top.” I'm where I am today due to my decision of not quitting the relationship.
In fact, Had it been I quitted the relationship back then, I would have lost and missed my destiny helper, but staying put had really helped and got me attached to my destiny helper who had and is still helping my life and destiny.
So, ever since then, I have always listened to the words of wisdom from the elderly ones, not only my father but those whom I know have the needed experience. Also, I have learnt that no one is perfect, but that all we need to do is to build on our individual weaknesses and differences.
This is my entry to the hivereachout weekly prompt.
Thanks for reading.
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