The very first step to conquering any problem is admitting you need help. Battles aren't meant to be fought alone, except in rare instances. The trap many people fall into is convincing themselves they're in control when, deep down, they're really not. We need to be honest with ourselves and humble enough to ask for help when it's needed.
The truth is, as humans, we simply can't always help ourselves. That's precisely why the Lord sent us the Holy Spirit so as to help us in our weaknesses. But the Holy Spirit doesn't force Himself on anyone. Many people miss out on the Holy Spirit's help, not because He isn't powerful enough, but because they unknowingly limit Him themselves.
One of the biggest lies anyone can tell themselves is that they don't need the Holy Spirit's help. Countless lives, and even the lives of those around them, have been shattered by addictions and other struggles, often because help was refused. Asking for help doesn't make you weak. In fact, many view surrender as a form of defeat, but when it comes to the Holy Spirit, it's the exact opposite.
The Holy Spirit is actually seeking those who are willing to surrender to Him. Some people genuinely want to break free from an addiction but find themselves unable to because they feel completely consumed by it. Trying to help ourselves in these situations is a lot like self-medicating which is highly risky and often ineffective.
2 Corinthians 12:9
"And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me."
When we are weak, and we've reached the end of our own strength, that's precisely when God steps in. The Lord's grace is more than enough and readily available to all who are willing to receive it. The enemy uses addiction to trap people and burden their lives with guilt, but when we turn to the Lord, He takes away every burden and struggle from us.