I do not want to be harsh in my judgment but there are times wherein a man and a woman who are not yet married may sleep without any bad intention. I have seen instances wherein a boyfriend and a girlfriend, they are together, it is not their intention to sleep together but a hurricane came and they were in a place and couldn’t move anymore so they were forced to stay in that place and they slept together. It is not born out of earthly desire or intention; they were not yet married but they were forced to sleep together due to the circumstances, I cannot judge such people, I cannot say they did something wrong because they were forced by circumstances.
But if a man and a woman sleep together without the benefit of legal marriage and do sexual acts or lust after the flesh, the Bible condemns it. Matthew 1:8–20
18:"Now the birth of Jesus was on this wise: when as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the HolyGhost.
19:"Then Joseph her husband, being a just man and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily."
20:"But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife; for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost."
The Bible tell us that…"Mary was espoused to Joseph" , the word "espouse” is a Greek word which means "engaged" They had their mutual understanding but did not have any sexual relationship whatsoever. That is the very reason Joseph planned to leave Mary because now she is in the family way, she’s conceiving the Lord Jesus Christ. There is a doubt in the mind of Joseph because he did not touch Mary at any time. That is the way to be boyfriends and girlfriends—having a fixed relationship and established understanding that later you’ll be married like Mary and Joseph but there is no sexual relationship whatsoever. But in our times , sexual relationship is like where children are playing, enjoying sex without responsibility, out of the bondage of marriage. Is it right in the sight of God? Of course it is not. Biblically speaking, a man may not come unto his wife until they are already legally married—they have to undergo marriage first, legal processes of the Bible. But to have sexual relationship, it is called in the Bible "Fornication"
1 Corinthians 7:1-2
1:"Now considering the things whereof ye wrote unto me: it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2: Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have their own husband”
While you’re not yet married, it is good for a man not to touch the woman, but to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife meaning touching your woman without being your wife first is prohibited by God.
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