Whenever someone mentions dominance, I am elated to listen to that person's point of view on the topic. Dominance is very broad and can be seen from different perspectives. Some people would agree that it's necessary to dominate over others while other people won't agree, it's all about their perspective.
I can't exactly count the number of times I was woken by neighbouring couples who were quarrelling. Listening carefully, I realised that 97% of the argument was caused by the struggle for dominance by the lady. We're not new to the fact that for a while now, women have been struggling for dominance. How is that going? I can't tell because I'm not one of them struggling.
About a week ago, I had a chat with @malopie and we concluded on the fact that nothing is ever going to be equal in this world. It might seem funny but it's actually true. Irrespective of how much humans try to balance things up,there would always be a dominating side.
I grew up knowing that men are supposed to dominate while women are supposed to assist the men. Ancient African culture really portrayed this fact. You see cases where the husbands get back from work and right from the gate, the wife is already doing many things. Collecting his bag, wiping his sweat, removing his work clothes, serving him dinner on her knees! The typical African woman of today would most likely not do all these things. Is this evidence of evolution?. Does this mean that men are slowly losing their dominance?
How do I deal with Domination
Personally, I don't have a problem with "dominance" except when certain people take it to the extreme. Dominance is supposed to come with utmost respect if you play your cards right. Many people don't understand this fact and they go ahead to act like gods over people's lives. There are very few humans that have dominance over my being presently; my parents and one of my uncles. Doesn't mean that I don't respect the rest of the people in my life.
Different people have their reasons to dominate. I really admire people who have logical reasons for trying to "dominate" and as such, they have my full respect.
On the other hand, I avoid people who try to dominate others by all means. I see them as power-thirsty individuals who would do whatever it takes to get what they want.
A few years ago, I had an encounter with a power-thirsty individual. He was one of the reasons I started choosing my friends carefully. We were a group of four friends who loved spending time together. Soon enough, he started getting on people's nerves because of the way he acted. He wanted things to be done his own way. He expected that we were all perfect and so if we made any mistake, he would start throwing tantrums. The straw that broke the camel's back was when we got into serious trouble because of his "dominance".
After I successfully wriggled out of the trouble with the higher authorities, I cut ties with him and I gave him my reasons. We have positive and negative types of dominance and he was clearly on the negative side.
I'm someone who likes to do things at my own pace and if any insecure and prideful human tries to change that in the name of "dominance", I get so pissed. This was one of the reasons why many senior students in highschool disliked me, but the few that understood my reasons loved me. The fact remains that you can't be everybody's favourite person.
We live in a world of imperialism and imperfection and as such, there would always, always be domination whether we like it or not. The best thing to do in such a world is to pick a stand. Do you want to be a supporter of negative domination, positive domination or neither? Do a silent self-evaluation.
With love, wongi ✨