In my previous post, I tried presenting as a question than giving my own perspective to it. After observing a whole load of comments and not stationary comments, I thought to make another post and here it goes.
When I mention "men and women" maybe the topic becomes more alarming and frustrating. So, I thought to use another word and see if I fail to raise the issue. We, humans, tend to have a nature of so many kinds. Some of us are more conservative, some of us are more clever, some of us are too emotional, some of us are too lineal, and the list goes on. Amid this discussion of the many types we all divide into, I have come crossed an event that made me question as to how things are portrayed.
I sat among other humans in a local bus where one sticks to another when they are in the next seat. However, few of us try to maintain distance no matter how our arrangements lay. While sitting next to other humans, who sat while some sleeping, some dozing off, some typing rashly on their phones, none with laptops on their lap as it was quite congested.
Soon two humans arrived at the bus, they were quite close, talking quite loud in their motion of conversing. Walked in between the legs of the other humans sitting quite congested, and told them to make space for them. Do we know who they are? Do we know their kind? Without knowing much we tried to make space for them, not by moving our hips but by moving our legs. While one among us spoke, not addressing to them, "this is becoming too crowded."
Both of them were still conversing, at that moment, they stopped their loud commotion and extended their conversation with the one who spoke.
"So? This is a local bus, we will collide with each other, we will be dancing how the bus will be. If you think it is a problem, maybe you can use another transportation."
"No, I am saying it is becoming too crowded, we are not able to keep our legs properly, less sit properly."
"Yes, this is normal. Look, you have designated spaces all for yourself, but we do not. We sit wherever we can. These seats do not fall under your spaces. So, you better do not speak about them.
While this "justice for seat" conversation was going on, I realized that all three of them were suffering. That is:
- One, who is annoyed as their legs were hurting for the mismatch of seat arrangements and voiced out
- One, who doesn't like too much body touches and tried to maintain distance
- One, who got very much offended by thinking that they were not welcomed here
- One, who got very much offended because of their "right issues"
Now, problems are always addressed to make solutions. Right? But, here nothing of that sort happened. People tried to get offended by their own words and tried to demean one another, without realizing who are they demeaning. The conversation could have gone in a more healthy manner, but it didn't, due to the ill-temper of humans. We humans can easily get agitated and that is natural I guess unless we try to get control over them. Then they are under control, all safe.
Now, the main point of this article is not dealing with how human behavior works nor how psychology works for each of us. Why should anyone of us stand, leaving our precious seats while giving them off to another, where we all are paying for using the transportation? Now, the main point is if we are not willing to give it off, no one can demand it to be given off. But, here is where the twist lies. Some seats are prescribed only for a few people and the rest are to be taken by everyone else. So, from 50 seats, if 5 are given to those prescribed people, 45 seats are available for the rest of the public.
Yet, we have problems giving off those 5 seats. We don't want to give them off. Nor do we want to show respect to an elderly person by letting them sit. Hold, I won't talk about respect here, things will become blurry, I will surely bring it up in the next part. The main point of this article is why do we have problems giving those 5 seats away to those who have been discriminated, their whole life since XXXX years. Without knowing the reason behind assigning the seats, without knowing the reason behind the usage of the word RESPECT, we often are delusional. Why to, is my question?
Can we all not be less discriminating, less delusional while throwing words at each other? We can be more humble and more linear, can we not? Becoming offended and making others offended, can actually not be our aim, right? Anyways, things aside, life is hectic, yet trying to be humble is the least we can do. Showing respect is the least to ask for.
{Cover- Pixabay Image by Engin_Akyurt}
If anyone is offended, that is not my intention, so I apologize. This post is related to an incident I faced back in December, which is why I thought to share it. Wrote it on my phone NOTES only to publish it in my previous post.