Is jealousy in a romantic relationship a sign of love?
Have you heard a humorous adage like "If a man is jealous in a relationship it's cute but when a woman is jealous, it's World war III gearing up?" Hehe.
I've seen so many people confuse jealousy with love but I can liken jealousy to a sign of insecurity and the fear of losing what we love and value.
Well, a right dose of jealousy itself isn't bad because as humans we love to guard our territory especially when someone looks like a threat to what we own.
It's pathetic when lovers take this jealousy thing so deep that they begin to do all sorts of crazy things in the name of guarding what they own.
I've heard of a lover cloning his/her lover's WhatsApp just to keep track of who they chat with and where they go and I find such an attitude very irritating.
Some have even hired guards or a spy to check on their lover's movement and that is another level of insanity.
Do you know that because of this madness, some have even set their lovers up just to see if they will fall for it?
Some hire a stranger to act like they are interested in their lovers and this usually ends badly, because even if the lover doesn't fall for it and finds out that it's all a setup, they begin to lose trust and respect for their partner and the list goes on.
For me, I think couples or lovers need to develop a boundary as to what they accept and what they wouldn't and should be stated clearly before they dive into the relationship.
They should also learn to make their partners feel secure even though they feel threatened by another person coming around.
The truth is, at some point in our relationship we will meet someone who is way cuter than our partner but that's where trust, reassurance and commitment in the relationship come into play.
To illustrate this point this particular song by my favourite artist back in the day comes to mind.
The singer constantly reminds his partner that even though he glances at other girls, they remain that girl, but she's all he wants and that reassurance.
He also reminds her that, she does the same and that he hasn't ever felt insecure because he knows that he'll be the one she'll come home to every night and that's trust.
He went ahead to thank her for being a part of his life and that he chose her over others even though he might meet those who might seem cuter.
This is just an easy way to save that relationship from going sour and I think it should be done genuinely.
How about you, do you think jealousy in a relationship is a sign of love or just an act of insecurity?
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