I know a lot of people who say that ladies also walk up to guys to tell them they like them. This sounds so uncommon to me because I haven't seen it, and I keep wondering where such things happen, because I haven’t seen that in my area.
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The song by African China and Faze, titled "If You Love Someone," made this lifestyle appear so common, but I guess it's only common in the virtual world, the movie world, or probably in highly developed countries with lifestyles that don't make this act appear as an abomination.
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This song, in its lyrics, stated that "if you love someone, walk up to her and express how you feel about it because it's not a crime." This does not only apply to the male gender, no, it's also telling the female gender to do so.
I have seen in movies where this act happens. I have also read on social media where ladies go about confessing their experiences when they approached a guy they liked. While the social media aspect may be true somehow, I still find it unbelievable. Maybe those people are making up the stories. But also, there might be a bit of truth in them, though they don’t happen commonly.
I have heard people, especially ladies, say it's a taboo to do that because it doesn't always end well, because the guy may take them for a fool or see them as being too desperate.
Me too, if I happen to get approached by a lady, I would take it as the lady being too desperate. Even if she's not desperate, that would be my first impression.
I guess that's why ladies in my country don't do that. But that's just my thought, though, because I have read stories about a lady who summoned the courage to approach someone, and they ended up getting married. That story is not an African story but one from outside Africa.
I really wish we could change our mentality about this poor attitude, but that is not looking like it's going to happen, because it's been there for ages.
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