I have always held on one thought among others and it says, "Never say it'll never be you when life is filled with uncertainty. And it has always helped me see things differently because I don't even know what I could have done better in a situation someone handled either well or not.
The truth in life is that we are different. Either from the same parents or backgrounds or different ones. No one on earth has your full attitude to something, and that's what makes you unique.
A true relationship holds more value to it than anything you could ever think of. Therefore, before I can venture into a romantic relationship, I have to be sure of who I am with. However, the heart may sometimes fail and put me right on the hip of a maximalist. And if that happens, then there must be some consideration that makes me still want to stay with the person despite being a minimalist.
Every relationship has a red flag, and that's the truth. What makes the flag shown to the world in the color red is when the undeniable spark that brought you both together isn't there anymore. That's when you notice he/she spends too much, walking barefoot and whatnot.
I do believe that there's always a need to learn as long as we are alive and for one, I know that I won't get into a romantic relationship where I can't communicate with my partner because I value communication as much as I do with comprehension. And as long as he is ready to learn or make room for change, we can work things out because no one is perfect.
Being in a romantic relationship isn't a pot filled with gold. There would surely be a lot of differences attached to you both despite being attracted to each other by something loved by you both. Therefore, to make a relationship work, there must always be a tango between the partners and the moment there is, talking about what I see that isn't right won't be a big deal because we are together to learn... to grow our relationship in every way.
Communication, yes! I'll speak to him. "Darling", I'll say romantically, kiss him before snuggling up to him. "There's something I want to discuss, and it has to do with the future we're working on." And then, I'll let him know what I think about the life he is living and how it can affect our future greatly. I know it won't be a smooth ride talk between us, but the fact that we are together and having a conversation is already a road unblocked for us... not just me.
Relationships are fun, and what makes it funnier is when we are both ready to make sacrifices for each other, and that's a big consideration to look at on my part. We can't be in a relationship with someone who is exactly as us from the outset. Nah, we need to grow into each other with our different characters entwined to be one. And that's when we can know our partner's next move. We get to know what they are thinking without even asking because our hearts, minds, and souls aren't alien to each other anymore. They've seen the need to protect, reason, and act towards it.
Therefore, if I am in a romantic relationship with someone who is disorganized or a maximalist, it won't be a deal breaker for me as long as we've got each other. But the moment I see we aren't on the same page and there isn't a room for reasoning to take place among us, that's the deal breaker for me.
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Still yours truly,
Balikis.
Thanks for reading.
Peace be unto those who crave it and more to those who chase it away.