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Recently while I was doing some household chores, I noticed that my daughter was watching a video, at first I did not pay attention but there was something mentioned in the video that caught my attention and I could not forget it, it said "Have you noticed that people who have problems, always have problems? "At first I did not understand this question in fact I thought it did not make much sense, but after the explanation of the person in the video and a long time thinking, I understood it, a person who is always talking about everything bad that happens to him, is a person that we will consider that always has many problems, right?
Yes there are people who are always very aware of the little big bad things that happen in life, so they have no time left to notice the good things, in short a person who always thinks negatively about life and everything in it, is a person who will never get out of one problem after another. Thinking about this made me evaluate myself a bit, I started thinking about what are the things I talk about with other people AND if I constantly go through life mentioning problem after problem to others.
Thinking about this was a bit hard for me, maybe I don't do it all the time, but there have been many times when I have brought my own grey cloud over others, this is actually not a bad thing, we all have times when we need to vent, talk to someone and tell them about the things we are going through, The problem lies in the regularity with which we do it and in our own way of thinking, if we can only notice the bad things around us and how much they affect us, then we will have no time left in our life to appreciate and notice the good things.
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Just as we maintain order in our house and try to keep it as little as possible of ornaments, artifacts and other things, we can also get rid of some thoughts that are some are causing damage and causing a fatal disorder inside us. Sometimes surprisingly we can hear in the place we least expect something that we really need to hear, that video It was quite short, but that question that was mentioned in it I know that it will remain engraved in me for quite some time, because it helped me to perceive something in me that was doing me a lot of harm.
Beyond the worries, the stress of everyday life or having a life full of excesses, there are little habits that we humans maintain that we can consider normal and that if we don't realize then we will never change them, that's why I think that reflecting on ourselves and self-evaluating ourselves by asking more meaningful questions, then we can get rid of the excess negativity in our life and instead more positive things that contribute to our personal growth.
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So, it is good to feel good with the changes we see on the outside that make us feel calmer and in a place a little more full of harmony, but it is also essential to change our way of thinking, to leave aside so many thoughts that complicate everything and instead have others, that make our life easier and also calm, how can we do it?
Self-examine ourselves, think a little and honestly about ourselves, our weaknesses and the points in which we could improve.
Give ourselves time to change: nothing is learned overnight, but learning to forget something we have been doing for years, that is much more difficult, so we must be patient and not give up.
Think before we act, before we speak and also before we think, how would this be possible? We must be more aware of what we think, not to let thoughts be free, but to identify them and replace them with others, whenever necessary.
These three things have worked very well for me lately and I hope that having shared them with you will be useful, I thank you for stopping to read what I write and I hope to meet you soon.