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How resilient are you, and what were some of the most testing times in your life, that made you realize that being strong was your only choice?
In life I have gone through many difficult moments that I can say that they were forming me. When I was only 6 years old my mother died and my sisters and I were not only sad, but without that special being who was in charge of taking care of us, Dad worked because there were many of us, he worked too hard and he never had enough money, so on several occasions my stomach roared. As my dad could not handle everyone, some of us went to live in other places with some relatives and although at my young age I had already been through a lot, I remember that I never felt as bad as I did at that time.
The treatment they gave me was horrible, I had to work very hard being still a child and sometimes they did not share food with me, this made me sick on several occasions, when mom was alive I went to school, I had learned to read and write, but then, I never went to school again, being mistreated by others and used as a worker, I did not have time to go anywhere.
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Nobody talked to me about anything, so I didn't have the proper education, so only at 16 I got pregnant with my first daughter, this was very difficult for me, I still felt like a child, I left that place and worked hard to rent a tiny room, I wanted to have my baby, but I knew it would be the hardest thing in the world for me. Time passed and I gave birth to a healthy baby girl, who became my companion, I took great care of her because I did not want her to pass or feel the same way I did.
Only a year later I became pregnant again, and I had my second child at 18, again alone with my two young children and also working, because I had no help from anyone. This was a desperate situation that overwhelmed me and made me cry, I felt very bad emotionally, but I knew that even though I felt that way I had to get up and do things, resilience is not something we are normally born with, I think that due to the circumstances I had to learn it, because little by little I was solving the issues, I worked and took care of my children, I fed them and prepared the clothes besides all the things that a mother should do.
I look at the past and I can't believe I made it, because it was difficult, but thanks to the fact that I didn't stay on the floor crying about how bad my life was going, but I adapted and did what I could to get ahead and I think that is resilience, it helped me to see a little hope because in my life everything seemed to be chaotic and negative, there were many things that happened, also difficult, but for me, this was the most complicated of all, happily I was able to overcome it.
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What did you take away from the experience, what would you have done differently, and what life lesson did you learn and would give as advice to someone who might be going through a similar experience?
Delicate and beautiful makeup in neutral tones, semi natural lookWell, I know that many people went through and go through what I went through and maybe they feel that everything is bad and that they will not have the strength to face it, I learned that human beings are capable of many things, even the most difficult and seem impossible, But that experience taught me that not only me, but all of us can face the difficult situations that we face in life, we can always find a solution, it is normal to feel sad and lonely at times like this, but despite this we must not stop fighting and adapting to the new situation to cope.
Some years ago I would have changed many things in my life not to face all that, but today I have learned that if it were not for that I would not be the person I am now, I consider myself a strong and capable woman, also when something difficult is presented to me, I know I can overcome it because I remember those moments when nothing was in my favor, I have learned, along with my family to adapt and that has helped us to learn many useful things and I know that together it will always be easier to face whatever it is.
If you are going through what I am going through, don't give up, maybe things seem to have no solution, but they do, I promise you that soon, much sooner than you think, you will begin to see those solutions everywhere you are a strong and admirable woman, all women are and that will surely help you to know what to do.