I remember my days at the university, seems like ages ago but it has only been 5 years. I was so obsessed with people’s life, going through my Instagram feed, wanting to know what is it they are doing. I wanted to stay relevant with all the latest gist and gossip so I can get involved in conversations even when I had no business being there.
It made me popular to an extent...but I almost got into trouble more times than I can count.
I remember how tense it can be being in a situation that wasn’t even my business in the first place, looking over my back wondering what others must be saying about me or thinking about me.
I didn't know what I wanted in life, all I was trying to do was stay relevant and known for other things aside from being a nerd or a geek. But it cost me my peace and happiness...
I wonder why I wanted to be so relevant in people’s life with people’s matters and not even mine
Why can’t I be known for changing the world, providing innovative solutions, and helping others grow? Or something productive at least...
my answer was staring right back at me, which was “comparison” I couldn’t understand who I wanted to be or what I wanted at the time without looking at others and trying to compare or measure up. Somehow I felt if I can get all the information about these people I look up to and admire maybe I can find a reason why I was as good as they were.
Social media stalking was one bad habit I had, and thinking about how terrible I was doing it😂😂...
I would stalk those that were living the life of my dream and feed off their happiness and not even create one for myself.
it brought low self-esteem, unfavorable self-comparisons and so many unnecessary attributes that weren’t peaceful ratherit took away my peace
But WHAT CHANGED?
I shut out the noise, let go of looking over people and knowing what they are up To, ignored the noise around me and just started minding my business.
It started when a serious issue happened with one of the people I was fond of online and as usual everyone assumed I had the information sincerely for once I didn’t care and didn’t bother to find out, and it felt good not having to know so much about other and putting myself in the position to worry about any information I would receive. And gradually I didn’t care anymore about an issue that wasn’t my business.
Minding my business has brought so much calm, silence, and inner peace, and little or no worry in the world About everyone else but myself.
Don’t get me wrong minding your business doesn’t mean shutting everyone out from existence the ones we love are as important but minding your business simply means being in control of what you hear, give, and how you do it.
I decided to pay attention to myself, just me, and not worry too much about others and their lives, I barely acknowledge the existence of something and I am ok with it because it has brought me happiness and inner peace.
Everyone has their different ways of inner peace and happiness, but this is one major path I know which is MINDING MY BUSINESS.