Some people are givers no doubt. It gives them joy to put smiles on other people's faces and one of the ways to do so is through giving gifts.
Though, giving and receiving gifts is good but are all gifts good? Or let me say,should all gifts be accepted, whether wanted or unwanted?
Some will argue that for a person to give you a gift, then it means that the giver had you in mind and thought of doing something nice for you. Why that is nice and all, some gifts can be unwanted, and it could be for various reasons and not just you simply not wanting them.
Should we reject the gifts we don't want?
I think the answer to this is not always especially If it is a gift that doesn't hurt, rather If it's a gift I consider inappropriate, I would thank them but won't accept it at all especially if me accepting such a gift would be interpreted in a way that it shouldn't. I won't accept it nor try to give it to someone else but if it doesn't hurt then I can accept such a gift.
I used to think it was very bad to reject gifts as I thought it would not only offend the giver but also make it seem like their efforts were not appreciated, but as I grew older, I realized that it depends on how “unwanted” the gift was to me before I could even think of giving it out to someone else.
Did I not like it because of the color or shape of the gift? Would I still want that same gift if it was in a different shape or color? Or was it because I wouldn't even want to have such a gift in my possession? I mean how unwanted are they?
If the latter was the case, then I would have to be honest with the giver, first, I would thank them for going through the effort of giving me the gift and to let them know why I didn't like it and would ask if they wouldn't mind me giving it to someone else or if they could give it out to someone else, if they could think of someone else who would like it.
I can't tell what their reaction might be with my response to their gifts but I would really appreciate it if someone says that to me about my gift to them should they not want it.
How do we deal with gifts we don't want?
We can simply collect it and give it out to someone who would have a use for them or would appreciate them more. Trashing or disposing of a gift because we don't like them is very bad. It is better not to collect them at all than to dispose of them because that would not only be bad, it would also be wasteful and if I was the giver and I found out something I gifted out was trashed, I would let the person know I would never give them anything else ever again.
Generally, I believe appreciation matters a lot, whether it is a wanted or unwanted gift, we should try our best to let the giver know that we appreciate their thoughtfulness, their time and efforts in going out of their way to get us a gift.
For a person to get you a gift either at random or on your special day, this shows that they are thoughtful and that they like or love you. I mean, it goes without saying that I can't just wake up and decide to get a gift for ”anyone”. That person ought to be someone that I have a kind of connection with or a relationship with. Other than that, then nothing at all.
Thank you all for reading.
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