How's your weekend, Hivers? 🙌 I hope you had a blast. Today's post is a walk down memory lane of an unforgettable night in Manila way back 2018. It was during this year that I had quite several flights to Manila for work. For the photos below, these were taken during that one time I went out on a "date" with a guy who was "referred" by a friend who's in Manila.
It was quite unforgettable because during the entire night, the guy talked all about his ex-girlfriend. I was a bit unsure how to react because: a. I am usually the "talkative person" in the room but that changed lol and b. It was our first date, and I don't date a lot so it's the first time I had that particular situation. I understand that his ex-girlfriend has just broken up with him about six months before that very day and his hurts were still evident.
At first I found it really odd that during that certain date, his all talking about the ex-girlfriend. But as minutes passed by, I started to be curious about the story of "the events before the break-up". And so I listened. Intently. Because it's not all the time that I get to actually know a real life story about how relationships can be. I felt like I was sort of a counselor that night, because all I did was listen, and give some pieces of motivational advice from time to time. It felt so great to be able to listen. I had lots of insights.
I felt sorry for the guy because he was so invested in their 4-year relationship and they were about to get married, by the way. I was a bit happy that this guy was vulnerable during the whole time as he shared how scarred he was and how hurt, when his ex-girlfriend broke up with him via Facebook Messenger chat.
As I was listening, I took mental notes, like: a. What happens in romantic movies actually come from real life contexts; b. For a relationship to work, both parties have to exert effort, and should not be one-sided, and if it becomes one-sided, then there's something wrong and you both have to re-evaluate the relationship; c. It is crazily devastating to be at the receiving end of a break-up message; d. When routines change in a long-term relationship, then there's "something fishy" going on that you have to investigate on; and e. Love is not enough to keep a relationship going, because it takes a strong sense of commitment from two people to make it actually work.
After the date, I told him that as he was still hung up with his ex-girlfriend, he has to sort things out, and that he does not have to date yet because clearly, he was not ready for another relationship. He has to take time to heal completely. And that does take a very long time, usually. But some, for the lucky ones, take a short time to heal and bounce back. It's a case to case basis, I suppose.
I never heard from that guy after a few weeks after that particular first date. We kept in touch via chat after the date, as a friend. I told him that he has to take good care of his heart, and to find healing, whatever that looks like to him.
Have a great week ahead, fellas, and a happy Christmas to one and all! 🥂
‘Til the next post, hivers! Remember that you are loved beyond borders and beyond time & space. Okay? Okay. 💛❤️
Ciao for now! 🤗🥰
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