Human eyes only see from judgment
There are no doctorates, nor any title that grants honorability, when it is not demonstrated. No one can replace the transparency of a look and the honesty of a smile. One day good and another not so good, but it is valid.
We should be thankful even for the simplest of things; for the joke that makes us laugh, this releases hormones (the good ones), keeps us away from anxiety and leads us through difficult times.
Today I am thankful for health, a roof over my head, a hot meal, company and sincere affection. Let me tell you that the beauty of a human being is in conjunction with the beauty of his soul. We are body, mind and heart, an intimate and wonderful integration.
Human eyes see, but it is judgment and feeling that makes us feel what we see. Therefore, we must change our perception of others; that is a thorough work to do on our EGO, with which we must learn to master, and it is not an easy task.
Today "I am a new woman, a RENEWED soul", a while ago, I stopped using the phrase cancer survivor to be able to relate differently, even working from home, doing things online all the time, managing my finances taking care of my budget to be able to buy food and medicines that I still have to take for 10 more years; seeing the positive side to the chaos and learning the lessons, are things that I have allowed myself.
And in this reunion with myself, I learned to be more empathetic; if I don't have something good to say about the other, I'd better keep quiet.
No one knows the battles I've had to fight, from the loss of loved ones during the pandemic three (3) in (the same family in a week), a job, bad finances, anxiety and depression.... In short!.... So, if the other person is fatter or thinner, with more dark circles under their eyes than usual; if they have not been able to sleep or get a haircut, it is better to avoid destructive comments that can do more harm than usual... if there is nothing positive to say to the other person it is better to keep quiet... because it can fucks up my life, which in the end is only appreciated by me.
I simply lower the intensity to what I perceive; to understand the other, I have to connect with them and understand their perception.
It takes a lot of courage to face the shadows, and not just anyone can do that. Sometimes, it is easier to stay "stuck" in suffering than to live the "pain" of losing someone; then one says "kill me, but don't leave me" and we remain there, forever.
To make matters worse, there are so many difficulties in coping with this country situation that affects so many of us, I do NOT care if I can not change the world... the best thing of all, will be to change mine, from the inside out.
That, without a doubt, is the only way to lower anxiety, that emotion of wanting to control everything, and I only get it when I keep my mind busy. That's why I established daily routines, reading, writing on my blog in the blockchain where many of us make life, exercises, walks, I may sometimes go out or have an emotional "slump", but it has helped me a lot.
Personally, there's nothing more medicinal than laughter to reduce the importance of what makes me angry, infuriated to the point of crying, crying that at least cleanses my soul... I say; sometimes I'm not sure about it.
And if with everything I don't learn, my unconscious, which is very vengeful, always reminds me that life keeps insisting, until the lesson is learned... very hard but true; and in life you play until it's over, "I am one of those who faces everything with my boots on" others call it "strong will".
So the healthiest thing to do is to try to be authentic and when they see me in a bad mood, there is coherence between what I show and what I am being honest, I assure you that it is the best way to get rid of a great weight called failure or frustration. We are emotional beings, but we are NOT emotions.
I only observe myself and I know my conviction that I can start again, no matter how old I am, change my path whenever I want, if I don't like the one I'm on; it is not worth it to cling to people, jobs, circumstances or situations that generate dissatisfaction.
Even with fear I face the changes with courage, even if sometimes it hurts my soul, even with the time I was given, which is longer for some and shorter for others; it is what I have, and how I value it. In the end, God changes our plans in his own way.
Anyway, to see the world as beautiful depends on us, on what our heart has; before criticizing someone let's stop for a moment, we are given a life and the opportunity to change and be better... We can try!
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