Hello beautiful people of the @homeeders, my humble greetings to everyone here and it’s such a wonderful time of the year t really engage in real time issues,
Lately for me there’s this issues that is very prominent in our society, I’m not sure about others but here in Africa it has become a norm that parent choose and decides career path for their kids not minding the after effect of all this decision on the child, so many of such stories has been up every where
In Africa most parent prefer their children to become what they want, study a particular course in the university, basically to fulfill their own dream of that since they could not have the chance to become that, another cause can be that they are probably in competition with other parents to show off and proof a point
Most times they say I want my child to become a doctor an engineer a pilot a lawyer an astronaut etc they do this at the detriment of the child own choice, flare and what they could really love to do, I have come across several of these cases and I asked myself what is the point
One time a guy after graduating, he went straight to his parent call them both and presented the certificate to them and said, you all wanted me to study that and I have done so, here’s the cert. drop it there and told them it’s time to study what I love, he went back wrote the necessary exams and got admitted to studying the course of his dreams
Another scenario were a girl I know of , very close to me, said she good in ART than SCIENCE during her high school days after filling in the subject she loved, her parent without her consent went to the counselors office and swapped her to science cause they want her to do science and not art, just to be humble and respectful she spent time reading hard for the science exam, but mean while her whole focus this entire time was on art, so she really put in a lot of energy to study and catch up, but at the end of it all she d=failed , so sad and depressed she then made up her mind to do what she loved and she put in for art subject this time, and she did make it big time
There are dozens of this drama everywhere in the world parent trying to impose what they think is right for the child pushing them to do what they absolutely have no interest for, but in respect they could decide to do that which will be more difficult for them
Basically these parent think their kids might not really know what they want, without watching them closely to discover their areas of interest and encourage them pursue dreams and passion, African parent to some extent sent them to study abroad, instead they go out and turn the other way round
** SHOULD A PARENT DECIDE THE CAREER PATHS FOR THEIR KIDS?**
DESIRE OF PARENTS: off course every child ought to be grateful to his or her parent first of all for the nice upbringing and provision and every other things , with this in mind every parent wants to see their children succeed in all Endeavour so they reserve the right to guide the child right to a great career path
PARENT KNOW BETTER: with years of experience downfalls and uprising they know better to choosing the right career path for their kids, most especially not wanting their kids to go thjru the bad experiences they had growing up
MATURITY: kids most times out of peer pressure wants to follow up and do what their peer are doing without knowing the pros, cons, all the do, and don’t of the career they may decide to do, since they are not matured enough parent still reserve the right to guide them
REDUCE UNNECESSASRY PRESSURE ON THE CHILD: parents are always available to help out since the child don’t really know so much about a perfect career choice for themselves, instead of making wrong decision and ending up with regrets
EXPERIENCE AND SUPPORT: in all ramifications parents are more knowledgeable in divers filled of endeavor and most times had experience in them so with this they can support and guide their kids properly not to repeat the cycle of mistakes
SHOULD CHILDREN DECIDE ON THEIR CAREER PATH?
IT is necessary you give your kids the right to decide and choose on their career path, cause in the long run they are the ones to live with it, I have personally come across friends that told me they are not happy with the course they are doing In the university because their parent push them to do it, because they think they know what is right for them, and to be sincere they are not happy about it
RIGHT TIO CHOOSE A child has the right to choose what they d love to do,. Things they have interest in, what they derive joy in doing not been pressured to choose what they don’t like
INTEREST BEGOT PASSION if a child finds something interesting they are likely to commit more energy into that, which will bread passion and they’d become better compare to what they are compel to do
BETTER DEAL WITH PRESSURE most time life in the campus can be very hectic and stressful so when in the face with pressure there can always be that determination to push ahead
WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO GUIDE YOUR KIDS CHOOSE A CAREER PATH OF INTEREST TO THEM
First of all it gives them that understanding that they could do what they really like to do and it boost their passion for it
STOP TRYING TO FIX YOUR CHILD IN THE SAME BOX YOU IN: remember children are unique individuals in themselves, suppress the urge to always want to fix them in the same box as you, they might nott be okay with it, what interest you might annoy them what you love might turn to be the opposite for them, more reason why children more or less rebe;l against their parent
GUIDE YOUR CHILDREN DISCOVER THEIR STRENGTH AND PASSION:
Once in a while seat down and do have a heart to heart talk with them about what they did love to become in the future, encourage them to always visit the a career counselor create this unique bond between you and them such that they can speak with you openly about what’s bordering them, give them tips reason do and don’t of a particular career choice they in that might make, , closely watch them and understand what they are good at encourage them and applaud them,…remember you can take a horse to the river but can’t force it to drink in water
FIND A MENTOR FOR YOUR CHILD
Find a positive encouraging mentor for your child, if he or she shows a strong interest in a particular career path, help them get a role model or mentor in that field, most times they might not feel like talking to you about it but they can say more to that mentor
LET YOUR KIDS GET EXPOSE TO VARIETY OF ACTIVITIES AND OBSERVE THEM CLOSELY: give your kids an opportunity to learn new activities , expose them to all other varieties such as art, science, cultures, nature and lots other unique creative things around the world , if you notice your child has a flare for a particular area encourage them to go deeper on that explore more go on research and help them strive in that area
SET THE PACE FOR THEM one thing children are goo d at is to mimic what they see and they try to copy that, you notice thus from when they are crèche very little they look at you all the time and copy you, so when they see you doing what you love they are likely convince that they too can either follow your paths or develop skills on what they love
