"INDEPENDENCY"

INDEPENDENCY---A TEST FOR TRUE MANHOOD.

Writing on the tittle: "Independency" with a question: when is the first time you felt truly independent or older than your age?

I am so excited when i saw the above subject topic, because it really remind me of my experience during the eight (8) nation wide ASUU strike in 2021 and without any hesitation, i will love to take you into the journey of that experience.And i know without any doubt in me that story of my experience will inspired you, as it come out of my personal experience.
Going with the subject topic as mentioned above, i decided to reconstruct the subject topic as:"INDEPENDENCY, A TEST FOR TRUE MANHOOD.

After my high school, i have the opportunity to stay away from my parents, which i do like.I seek for opportunity to experience life outside the family lifestyle and traditions.
After high school, it is the vision of every parents to see their children gotten admission in high institution, likewise was the dream of my parents. But then my final year result as a high school student is not good enough for me getting admission into high institution, so my parents set plans for me, and not quiet long, they found one of the best tutorial centre in the nearby town,which is away from home.This is so that i can be properly be equip enough to take up another high school final year exam, which we normally call here in Nigeria, "Senior School Certificate Examination" (SSCE).I was enrol for the tutorial class for about two years.
During that time, in my mind, i am now an independent man, since my parents are not here with me, though they virtually provided all my needs at the cause of my stay at the tutorial centre.
The reality of independency, was fully done on me, when I was in my year two, at the university.
During the time, we had eight (8) month nation wide strike by the "Academic Staff Union of Universities" (ASUU).we(most of the students) thought the strike will be something just like two weeks at most.it was two weeks already and there was not any update about the ASUU returning to classroom and so couple with the demands from my parents for me to come back home, i have to leave the school and travel home to see my parent.
Being at home it was almost a month already, yet there is no any sign of ASUU returning to classroom, so i decided to talk with my parents for their consent, to go and look for some mini job in city which will as well lesser my academic burdens on them, since am not the only child at the moment that they are struggling to sponsor in school.Looking at my suggestion they gave me their consent to go to the city and find something doing that will financially aid my academic.
My parents are not too rich neither are they too poor, in doing their best, they ensure that we the children do not lack anything needful for life and academic pursuit...It was along this period of life, the eight (8) month ASUU strike experience that brought me to the journey of "Independency" which was the first time i felt truly independent and even older than my age"

"My eight (8) month of independency".
As i travel to the city, luckily as God will make it, i got a job, to work as a security officer in one of the Telecommunications company. I was so excited about my new job, at least i have found something doing that earn me something.
I rejoice with the nature of my new.Less stressful, especially in the day time, with at least available accommodation given to me.
As time flight, i spent a month already at my new place of work, and i received my first salary.
It was when i continue to work for the second month, that was when the reality of " Independency" was fully done on me.
I start to use my salary for almost everything: To buy detergent and cream, foodstuffs, and everything you could thing of.
The first month experience wasn't so, i have some foodstuffs and other material i brought with me from home.So the first month experience was just like a life of dependency from parent at home, though if someone should said so to me at the moment, I don't think I will agreed with such fellow, that am still living a depended life.Until when every provision i carry from home finished, that i got to understand the life of independency and responsibility attached to such life:
That was when i begin to see the significant of Daddy support in the family, and even when he said i don't have this particular thing at the moment, please be patient for while, at some point one can easily get angry even when he pleaded you should be patient, because i think he is the Father he supposed to have everything, not even caring much how he got the little he brought to the house.
I began to think of mummy food, i go to where i want to go, coming back only to see food on the table, not knowing how the food was gotten.

The experience was not funny that i have to seek for others means i could support myself, to at least save something in my account, so that when the strike is call off, i can boost that i have save something in my account.

Then i began to seek for secondary and primary schools with teaching vacancy where i can submit my teaching application.

Guess what, i have never taught in primary or secondary schools before. But then, it was that same period that i developed my teaching ability.

At the moment, i was so overwhelmed with the demands attached to "independency life" and i began to asked myself: Joseph, why going through all this?. Am not a family man, neither am i yet a Father, so why going through all this experience which responsibilities looks beyond me or older than my age!, is it not better off i stay home or just go back home?, at least no matter the stress at home it can never be compared to all this am going through now.

I was glad,i remained in that place of work, till the strike was call off.
Through those moment i learn the secret life of manhood and lot more.

I believed you were inspired by this story:
If you are a single, i urged you never to run away from experience that will aid sharpen your life and if you are parenting Father or Mother, fear not of releasing your children to experience life situation, that will make them a better version of themselves (but with proper guidance watchfulness, before the released).
I anticipated to here how this story really inspired you.
Thank you