We all want to be remembered by the people that we cared, but what if for some reason they cannot remember us?
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It has been a struggle for some and, as I read and reflect on Depression and Anxiety Support Group post it makes me wonder why some people tend to forget others?
At first, I want to believe that one of the reasons why we are forgotten is because they do not care for us at all. We sometimes seek the attention and affection of other folks around hoping for their validation but at the end of the day, they don't want to do anything for us.
I had been in the same predicament before, I know the birthdays of my friends at heart but when my special day arrived no one greeted me. My parents did, but the folks that I am expecting never. At some point, I decided to turn off the notifications on Facebook and decided to at least deactivate my account for quite some time to give "me" time for myself. This was not the case for the previous years, I was able to make connections with people that cares and started celebrating my born date, though at times that it is a date that will pass.
Digging on my thoughts, one of the reasons why we are not being remembered is the fact that we are not memorable at all?
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There's a joke in the memes that I saw before.
Mabuti na ang hindi honor basta hindi ka tumae sa shorts dahil ang may honor limot na ng mga estudyante pero ang tumae sa shorts tanda pa nila hanggang sa paglaki.
It is okay not to be top of the class rather than become the person who poops in his pants. The top student gets forgotten but the one who poops in class will still be remembered.
It was a negative way to be remembered but it is a way to become memorable from other people.
For some, we want to be remembered because we want to know the people that we exist in this life. Or we are part of a simulation and we want to create an impact before we hit the grave for good.
Have you asked yourself the following?
Who are the people that I want to remember me?
What are the actions that I did for them?
Am I doing well with that?
It will be depending on the stage of your life on how you will be answering these questions. For some consider family and friends while others may consider their superiors at work or the person outside the building. You are the one who can answer it.
People tend to remember people for the things that they did for them. You may think that it is unfair but that is how the world revolves. Or they don't know you at all? At this point, you need to make sure that you are noticed by the person whom you chose that you want to be remembered. Be someone that they can rely on.
In the previous company that I had worked with, I was a specialist with tax concerns. I was a point of contact for inquiries relating to exemptions and state regulation hence when I applied for a higher post it was my branding something that can be remembered.
If you will be able to answer those questions, a huge chance is people around you will be able to recognize you. Though there are certain factors that they do not care about you at all it will be worth a try to experiment on such.
For now, I do not care if folks do not remember me. I'd prefer to be in the lowkey life. Less interaction with people less stress and fewer people to worry about.