Good morning everyone. How was your night's rest?
Mine was good as well. I welcome every one of you to my blog.
I want to share yesterday's experience with you on what I title marriage is not an opportunity
but a choice.
This topic is an interesting one believe me. As you read further, you will get to know more about this topic.
You know, often, some ladies and guys think marriage is an opportunity. I'm one of those ladies who also believe that marriage is an opportunity. But I'm glad that I was made to understand that I was wrong in my assumption.
You know, as I grew up, I started having this belief that if someone asked for my hand in marriage, if I liked him, I should say yes to him without getting to know him better because I was desperate to leave my parents house. But thanks to a friend of mine who told me what I needed to know about Marriage.
So this is what happened. I went to church yesterday evening to visit my pastor, so when I arrived there, he wasn't around. So I had to wait for him till he returned.
So, while I was waiting, one of my male friends in the church started narrating a story about a friend of his who was desperate to get married as a single lady, which she is.
According to him, she has a provision shop but yet she's not focusing on her business. Marriage has become her number one priority. According to him, he has been telling her to work on herself first before thinking of getting married, but it seems she's not getting him right.
So I was still listening carefully, to what he said. So immediately after he was done talking, he asked me a simple question, which generated multiple answers.
He called me by my name, Joy, and I responded to him. And he said to me if as I'm right now, someone comes to propose to me if I would accept his proposal, and I said yes.
He asked me why, and I said because that's an opportunity, and if I missed it, it might be difficult to find someone else who's ready to come for my hand in marriage.
Immediately I finished what I was saying, he and two other ladies who were there laughed at me. And I was wondering why they were laughing at me. So when they finished laughing, one of the ladies, Evelyn, by name, began to counsel me on marriage since she was studying Guidance and Counseling in college.
She said to me that marriage is not an opportunity but a choice. According to her, some people can choose not to get married at all, and some can choose to marry. It's not a do-or-die affair.
According to her, marriages were meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured. In the sense that your spouse would go out there and defile himself, and still come back to the house to tell you that you're his wife.
She told me marriage is something Christians need to start praying for at a very tender age, and not when someone is at the door of your heart waiting for you to open; then you will go and ask God, is he the one?
She scolded me, and she also advised me to keep calm and know my worth. According to her, it was emotions that made me say what I said. She asked me not to allow my emotions toward marriage to make me give room to people who don't know how to love, cherish, and value a lady.
She made me understand that, even if I don't marry, I shouldn't think that I've not achieved anything.
According to her, if I marry right and we're able to live in peace with each other, that's the greatest achievement. But if I choose not to know my worth and I decide to do things the way it pleases me, I might lose it all.
She advised me to think about what she said. And she also told me to look at marriage from a different perspective. And if possible, I should always interact with some married men and women to know how their marriages are.
It's not a crime to be in a relationship, and during that period, the two lovers should get to know each other very well. As a lady, know if he will permit you to do certain jobs, and if you discover that the two of you don't share the same view, please go away from such a relationship.
Don't close your mouth till when you're officially married and you start thinking you will be able to change his or her character; I tell you, it's not possible.
Please think about it. Know your worth and also understand marriage before you embark on it.
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