I won't tell you much about myself, for 2 reasons:
1) I don't think my age, my hometown, or my job are of any real interest to anyone.
2) I live in the Deep South, and I don't want to get fired.
So for now, I'm going as Kay, and I'll stick to the basics. I'm a woman in her late 20s, happily married, and in an open relationship with my husband. And while yes, all the extra sex is great -- and it is (for the most part)! -- confronting the day-to-day realities of living non-monogamously can be a challenge. Sometimes I don't even realize I'm breaking a societal norm until it's lying in pieces on the floor; other times, I'm shocked by how infrequently people in "regular" relationships reflect on the rules and boundaries of their arrangement... and then I remember that I, too, never thought about such things until about a year or two ago.
The intention of this account is not to brag in detail about all my steamy, non-secret rendezvous. It's for serious thinkers who want to think seriously... about sex. Below are some topics I'm considering:
- catching "the feels" (HINT: It's only a big deal if you make it one.)
- the pitfalls of default monogamy (not monogamy in general)
- talking about what you need/want
- unexpected results of hetero open relationships (AKA Guess who gets laid more?)
- sexual orientation vs. sexual practices, esp. when it comes to workplace protections
- deciding how much and who to disclose to (if anyone)
Of course, I'm always up for suggestions! Please leave some in the comments section below.