I am reaching my next stage of life recently. Life changes significantly to me and Steemit gives me a place to keep track of what happened in the life.
RELATIONSHIP
Sharing common emotion or feeling is not enough to maintain a very good friendship. People seem to have less time and different focus when they start their post-school life in the society. They start to pursue their own life goal and school-kind friendship even is very sweet and memorable which is not their focus anymore. Sharing opinions and mental inspiration become a key to your friendship. Both of you could be inspired and learning things from each other, which become another motivation to keep your friendship.
A lot of us found that friends that were close before become less connected since times goes. I found the most reason is because you could not find a common life goal in your life then could not inspire and understand each other.
AWARENESS
All of us makes mistakes unintentionally in our life. In adult world, the expense of those mistakes is much higher than the one in kids world. You have to pay for your mistakes. Maybe you lost your connections, your lost your support or your lost your job.
All of us learn a lot from our mistakes but I found a better approach to avoid making this mistakes is to consistently increase our awareness of surrounding and our behaviours. For example, if we are aware that we are just talking all the night, people may show less interest and complain about this. This is an example of mistakes without our awareness of people.
Most of us could judge the right or wrong behaviours but only few of us are aware of our behaviours when we actually take actions. Our intuitive mind-we could call system 1 simply just react to our emotion of that moment or follow our old habit of talking. However, in order to bring more awareness to us, we should operate more our controllable mind-system 2 which takes more effort to react to the environment then take actions.
LEARNING
Our life is very distracted by a lot of information and things. Facebook group, instagram updates, stock, news etc. We rarely found a quite time to re-organize our thoughts and look at our life in a bigger and universal approach. By reading a book called " The compound effect", I learn that starting to change some old habits and start a new better habit consistently or on a daily basis will bring more positive effects on our future. We should constantly think about what behaviours we should not do on a daily basis that could bring more happiness and successful for us because the compound effect of those behaviours are larger than what we could expect in our future.
Last but not least, thinking about how our behaviours will affect others especially ones close to us before taking any actions or speaking out become a new awareness to my life.